His Wife Constantly Forgets To Get Errands Done While He’s Working, So He Started Asking Her To Send Check-In Texts, And She Thinks He’s Treating Her Like A Child

This man currently works in a large city, and his commute from home is about one and a half hours each way. At the same time, his wife loves their hometown and is a stay-at-home mom to their 6-year-old son.
But, sometimes, his wife and son will join him on his trips to the city. They will either spend the day seeing the city or just running some errands.
“Sometimes, my wife leaves our son with her folks and comes in alone with me so she can spend a day alone or with friends,” he added.
However, with his current schedule, he works four 10-hour days each week. That way, he completes his 40 hours while still having three days off.
So, on the days he is working, he doesn’t have any time to run his own errands. That’s why whenever his wife goes into the city, he asks her to handle some of his errands for him.
There is one major problem with this, though. Apparently, his wife tends to forget to get the errands done.
Oftentimes, she will say that something just slipped her mind or that she became too busy doing something else. Then, this forces him to drive into town to take care of his own errands when he gets home.
Now, the closest town is only about 30 minutes away, which he realizes isn’t a huge deal.
“But there is also a limited selection for the stuff I need or the places that provide the services I require,” he explained.

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“And they are expensive. If I must, I will drive into the city– wasting my money, time, fuel, and putting miles on my car.”
So, over the last year, he started asking his wife to text him everything that she has on her errand list to get done for him. Then, at about 4:30 p.m. on workdays, he checks in to see what has been completed.
Since instituting this habit, his wife has reportedly been good about it. Still, she’s begun complaining about how he is treating her like a child. She also claims that she’ll remember everything he asked her to do without the check-ins.
He agreed with his wife, too, and let go of the check-ins last week– allowing her to just go back to her old way of completing errands. But, yet again, she got “carried away” while talking with some friends and didn’t even realize it was nearly time to pick him up from work until he gave her a call and informed her that he would be at a different office.
This caused his wife to show up, pick him up from work, and admit that she got none of the errands done at all.
That’s why he wound up asking if they could just go back to the text check-ins since it was obvious that his wife needed them to stay on top of the to-do list. She said yes, too, but has been upset ever since– accusing him of not trusting her.
“But I do trust her. Just not to remember to do what I need,” he vented.
So now, he’s wondering whether asking his wife to send him text updates about the errands was really an unreasonable thing to do.
Do you think wanting a check-in is unreasonable if his wife doesn’t follow through? Can he trust her if she consistently doesn’t get the errands done? Is there another way they could handle this situation?
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