She’s Started Ignoring Her Husband When He Hints That He Needs Her Help Since It Really Bothers Her That He Never Asks Her Directly

Sometimes, our partner’s bad habits can be a bit annoying.
This woman’s husband doesn’t ever directly ask her if she can do something for him. Instead, he repeatedly hints and complains about how he needs to get something done until she ends up doing the task herself.
Since their family only has one car, her daughter sometimes needs to get a ride from one of them, usually two days a week, to get to work before she goes to school. Her daughter works at her school, and while she normally takes the bus, sometimes her shifts are scheduled before the buses are running.
Tomorrow, their daughter will need a ride, and it would work well with her husband’s schedule for him to drive her.
“He’s already leaving (I work from home), so it just makes sense for him to do it. He has to leave about 20 minutes earlier than usual,” she said.
Sometimes, she takes her daughter to work, and when she does, she drops her daughter off and comes back to the house, and then the moment she gets home, her husband has to take the car to work.
Even though it wouldn’t be much of a hassle for him, he was annoyed and complaining about how he’d be the one taking their daughter to work.
Apparently, her husband is the type of person who sleeps in as much as possible and gets ready as fast as he can before leaving the house.
“He keeps making comments like, ‘I guess I got to go to bed earlier so I can get up to take her to work…’ like he expects me to step in and volunteer,” she explained.

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For a long time, she has struggled with resisting stepping in and solving other people’s problems. She said that while she is working on putting boundaries in place for herself, she often wants to just do things herself when people need to accomplish tasks and aren’t getting them done.
Over the years, she’s understandably grown frustrated with people who hint about needing something done but not directly asking her for help.
Throughout their marriage, this has been a constant issue with her and her husband. Despite her repeated requests for him to directly ask her when he needs help with something, he hasn’t complied.
So, now she feels like the only thing she can do is completely ignore her husband when he hints and complains about things he wants her to do for him.
Evidently, her annoyance with her husband hinting instead of asking her directly for help happens in any situation under the sun.
“This issue is about more than the school run. He does it with everything. From basic household stuff to doctors’ appointments and bills and even his schooling,” she shared.
Plus, her frustration has grown over time because she is also the one doing the vast majority of the parenting.
She has been the one who coordinated meetings and appointments, emotionally comforted her children late at night (including a time when she was heavily pregnant and slept on her toddler’s floor so that her husband could sleep), and even walked a mile to and from her children’s school for drop-offs and pickups so that her husband could use their car to get to work.
She and her husband have been married for over 15 years, but his lack of direct communication and his unwillingness to contribute to the workload around the house and with the family is taking its toll on her.
She can no longer concentrate on her freelance business, and the situation is causing her to feel overwhelmingly exhausted and anxious.
She and her husband have already tried marriage counseling, so she is worried that nothing more can be done besides just ignoring his behavior until he starts communicating more directly when asking for help from her.
What would you do if you were in her shoes?
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