He And His Wife Planned To Start Their Family Soon, But He Just Realized He Really Doesn’t Want Kids And Isn’t Sure How To Break The News
This 32-year-old guy first met his wife, who is also 32, back when they were in high school. Then, they officially began dating in college and have been married for six years now.
Ever since they became exclusive, they’ve always had the same plan, too. He and his wife both wanted to focus on their careers first. Then, once they reached a solid “level,” they wanted to move in together, get serious, and tie the knot.
“We also discussed kids, and we both wanted two kids,” he recalled.
“So now, we have great careers, have been married for a few years, and bought a house together last year.”
However, his wife is currently working on a huge project– which requires her to travel in and out of their state for the next five months. Once that is over, they plan to begin building their family.
He has already spent the past two years saving up for kids, and he even has two small college funds already created.
“I never really thought I wouldn’t want kids,” he admitted.
Yet, over the past six months, he has felt shockingly hesitant every time his wife has brought up children. And over the past week, while his wife was out of town, he reflected on his hesitation until the realization hit him: he just doesn’t want children.
Apparently, the reason why is because he’s just worried about the fate of the world in terms of the economy and global warming. He also really appreciates his and his wife’s autonomy over their lives, and he isn’t ready to give that up, either.
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“The costs involved are also kind of insane. We could afford it, but it would come with a big lifestyle change,” he added. “Most of the reasons are very selfish.”
He knows that telling his wife his newfound realization will not go over well, either. To be clear, he will see his wife in person next weekend– so he does not want to tell her over the phone.
So, for the time being, he’s trying to collect his thoughts. But he realizes that their marriage could either go in one of two directions.
First, his wife could just divorce him, which he really does not want to happen.
“I love her more than anything, and I love our life,” he vented.
Second, he could just “suck it up,” have kids and be miserable for the rest of his life.
Obviously, neither of these options is ideal either. So now, he’s wondering how to tell his wife that he no longer wants kids without completely blowing up their relationship.
How do you think his wife will feel after finding out that their previously shared life goals and values aren’t the same anymore? Do you think there is any way to break this news lightly? What would you do?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
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