Her Boyfriend Asked Her To Move In With Him And Help Care For His Children After His Ex Passed Away, And She Ended Up Leaving Him Since It Was Too Much
Over the last two years, this 26-year-old woman has been in a relationship with her boyfriend, 30.
Her boyfriend has a 6-year-old son and a daughter, 4, whom he had with his ex-girlfriend.
Three years ago, he and his ex-girlfriend broke up, and his ex moved with their children to a different state so that she could be closer to her family. After the breakup, her boyfriend only saw his children during vacations.
“I knew all this when I started dating him. I had no issue with this but told him I couldn’t be a parent. I was parentified by my mom and raised my five younger siblings. The oldest of them is six years younger than me, and I had to change his diapers and feed him formula,” she said.
When she turned 18 and moved out of her childhood home, she went low-contact with her family. Now, she doesn’t want to ever be put in that type of situation again where she feels forced to take care of children that aren’t hers.
After her boyfriend and his ex had their second child, he had a vasectomy and knew he definitely didn’t want to have any more children.
Her boyfriend was understanding when she told him that she didn’t want to ever be a parent but that she would be willing to be a positive role model in his children’s lives.
Throughout their relationship, she and her boyfriend took their time, and she only met his children within the last several months when they all went on a trip together. She loved hanging out with them, and they all had a blast together.
Tragically, her boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend passed away two months ago. His children were obviously devastated, and they moved in with her boyfriend.
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She wasn’t living with her boyfriend, but he asked her if she’d be willing to move in with him so that she could help him take care of his children for a short time.
Since she understood that her boyfriend and his children were deeply grieving, she agreed to move in with him. However, she instantly started to resent feeling forced again to take care of children that weren’t hers.
Over time, she grew sick of how needy her boyfriend’s children were, and she despised how many obligations she now had.
She tried to take care of them as much as she could, but her emotional health was suffering and worsening the more she stayed in this situation.
Unfortunately, her boyfriend didn’t assist her with taking care of the children at all because he was dealing with his grief, too.
“Last week was especially bad since the younger kid had a cold and wanted me to nurse her back to health exactly as her mom would have,” she shared.
“The soup wasn’t the same, the song and story weren’t told the same way, I didn’t hug her the way her mom did, were some of the long list of complaints.”
“I know she is grieving, but I was already working from home and was stressed, too. When I told my boyfriend he should take over, he said they need me more since I am a mom.”
This set her off. It reminded her too much of how she had to take on her mother’s job, so she told her boyfriend that she couldn’t take care of his children anymore or stay in the relationship with him anymore.
In response, her boyfriend told her to “stop acting like a child and step up.”
At this point, she realized that if she remained in the relationship, this is how her boyfriend would always treat her and how the dynamic would be.
He would always make her feel like she wasn’t “measuring up” or “good enough.” She would always have to fill the role of a mother.
Yesterday, she moved out of her boyfriend’s place and in with one of her friends. Her now ex-boyfriend has been sending her tons of texts, calling her a jerk for leaving him.
Do you think she was right to leave her boyfriend?
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