She Wants To Dissociate Herself From A Friend Who Has A Kid Because The Child Is Always Brought Along To Hangouts
For most of this woman’s adult life, she’s always had friends who had kids. And she never really minded that, even though she’s not interested in having children of her own.
“I love children and truly feel they can be funny and adorable at times,” she said.
However, she has one particular friend with a kid whom she is now avoiding hanging out with.
For context, she knows from past experience that whenever her friends bring their kids along to hangouts, they are constantly distracted or occupied tending to the children.
“I find that it’s hard to hang out or socialize with my friends when their kids are around, which has recently started to become annoying,” she explained.
And she knows that her one friend will definitely bring their 1-year-old daughter if they hang out. The last time they got together, for instance, the baby girl was there, and she had no clue her friend was bringing their child.
It also made matters worse that they planned to watch a movie, and having the baby there made enjoying the film pretty impossible.
“My friend never mentioned it,” she recalled.
“I figured my friend would have her partner watch the little one so she could actually watch the movie and be able to hang out instead of having to tend to the baby the whole time.”
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So, during their last get-together, she actually was honest with her friend– sharing how surprised she was that the baby was brought along.
Well, her friend was shocked by her comment and claimed that, of course, the baby went everywhere they went, as if she was supposed to know that. She admits that perhaps she should’ve known that, but regardless, the movie night wound up being a disaster. Throughout the entire film, her friend kept having to get up to keep the baby occupied.
So, she and her husband, who was also there, could not focus on the movie due to all of the distractions. And now that her friend has started reaching out again and asking her to have another movie night, she just is not interested.
She’s been skating her friend’s invite by claiming to be really busy and saying that she doesn’t know when they’ll be able to get together. Now, this isn’t completely untrue– she is busy. But she also keeps purposefully filling up her schedule with other commitments before asking her friend to book a hangout together.
“I know that I could probably ask my friend not to bring the child, maybe in a tactful way, but I feel like she will still be offended,” she vented.
Still, she can’t help but wonder whether disassociating herself from this one particular friend who has a kid makes her a jerk or not.
Can you understand why she doesn’t want there to be kids present when she’s trying to hang out with her friends? On the other hand, is it sometimes impossible for parents to avoid this? How can she approach her friend and express her perspective in a conducive way?
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