She’s Telling Her Teen Sister She’s Not Helping Her Raise Her Second Child After She Already Made Sacrifices To Help Her With Her First
When you support someone through a challenging time, sometimes they get a little too used to your help and assume you’ll always be there to do things for them. Then, eventually, a day comes when you have to put your foot down and say ‘no.’
One woman is refusing to help her younger sister raise her second child after she has already made sacrifices to help her with her first.
She’s 23, and her sister is 18-years-old. A few years ago, before she went to college, her sister became a teen mom, surprising their entire family.
The father of her sister’s baby wasn’t in the picture at all, so she and her parents were the only people around to help out her sister. Not wanting to leave everyone behind, she decided to help her family by going to a local college and continuing to live at home to help with the baby and the household bills.
The idea was that once her sister got through high school, she’d go to a local college that offered childcare and eventually get a job.
However, she recently announced she is pregnant with baby #2.
Her sister’s second baby has a different dad than the first one, but she fears he won’t be around much either, meaning she’ll need more help.
While the first baby was definitely unplanned, she can’t help but wonder if this one was.
“I’m 99% sure it was planned,” she explained.
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“She’s four months in already, so it’s a bit too late to be talking about alternative options. Obviously, my parents are talking to her about it and [her] next steps. But for me, I don’t think I want to be involved with either [of her] children anymore.”
She’s ready to move out and keep her hard-earned money to herself instead of giving it to her sister and her children.
However, she’s struggling to tell her sister how she feels since she’s already upset that their parents aren’t being as supportive as they were the last time she was pregnant.
“My parents have already had a big chat and put their feet down, telling her that she needs to sort herself out and contribute a lot more,” she said.
“She’s come to me and told me she thought they would be happy for her and that she doesn’t like their attitudes. She doesn’t even know my opinions yet.”
Now, she’s wondering if it would be wrong of her to suddenly stop contributing to her sister’s lifestyle with baby #2 on the way.
Would she be wrong to move out and get on with her life, or is it the best thing to do for her?
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