He Laughed In His Divorced Sister’s Face After She Asked Him To Take Care Of Her Son Full-Time And Help Pay For Childcare
For his whole life, this 32-year-old man has never been in a relationship.
He has pretty much accepted that he thinks he will remain single.
While he does think that he still has some resentment about never having a relationship, he is financially comfortable, has a successful career with a great salary, and works remotely. He is also physically healthy, so he feels grateful for everything that’s going well in his life.
While they were growing up, he and his sister, 29, had a close bond that lasted until they were young adults.
They became more distant when his sister got into a relationship and didn’t spend as much time with him. The only occasions that his sister seemed to reach out were when she needed his help with something, and he didn’t mind lending a hand.
“But her basically dropping me as soon as she found a boyfriend while I was still alone kind of hurt and made my loneliness worse. Anytime I talked to her about that, she just told me the usual, ‘Go get a hobby, or maybe try online dating; someone will come along; it does for everyone.’ And when I told her I was doing that, it wasn’t working, and it was just making me feel worse with every rejection, she just said, ‘It’ll happen eventually, trust me,’ (which it obviously didn’t),” he said.
As the years went on, he finally decided to see a therapist to figure out some ways to cope with his feelings of loneliness in healthy ways. He feels like his therapist was a lot more helpful than his sister, and from his perspective, his sister’s words of encouragement were patronizing.
A couple of years later, his sister and her boyfriend had a son together. They later got married, but unfortunately, her sister caught her husband in the act of having an affair. So, about a year into their marriage, she divorced her husband and is now a single mother to their son.
“She came to me asking for help again, and this time, she wanted me to take care of her son while she was at work full-time AND help pay for childcare, essentially taking on the role of a stay-at-home dad. That was a step too far for me,” he explained.
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While he’s fine with the idea of watching his nephew once in a while, he doesn’t want the responsibility of caring for a child all the time and contributing financially to a child.
Of course, he cares about his nephew a lot, but he felt like this was way too much for his sister to expect from him, in regard to the amount of both time and money that he would have to sacrifice.
In response to her asking him to do this, he chuckled because of how outrageous he thought it was that she thought he should be expected to accept the role of a caretaker.
“After a quick laugh, I told her no and explained that my reasoning was that it wouldn’t be fair to me to take on all this responsibility when I’ve never had a relationship and have never hooked up with anyone. Like, I’m supposed to take on all the responsibility of a father when I never got any of the fun that comes with it with anybody. And since she’s my sister, it’s not like she could change that like another single mom could,” he shared.
Once he said his piece, his sister was furious. She told him that he doesn’t seem to have any empathy for what she’s currently going through.
She continued, telling him that she believes he’s grown to be resentful and filled with bitterness and that it seems like all he can think about is hooking up with people.
Then, she mentioned his high salary (which is in the six-figure range) and said that since he works remotely, it wouldn’t be too difficult for him to help her out with the childcare for her son.
Despite what his sister said, he doubled down on his rejection of her request. He told her that he was in this financial position because he made choices along his career path to get to this point, adding that his sister was in her current situation because of her own decisions.
After this, his sister walked out while holding back tears.
He feels terrible that his sister divorced her husband due to his cheating, but he doesn’t think that that means it should be his responsibility to help her around the clock.
In his view, she took a “risk” by getting married in the first place, and he thinks she should have been helping him cope with his feelings of loneliness instead.
Later on, he received a phone call from his mother, and he could tell that she seemed a bit intoxicated. She was angry with him for refusing to help his sister when she needed him. He repeated the same explanation to his mother that he’d given to his sister, saying that he didn’t think it was fair that he should be expected to take on all this work when he hadn’t ever hooked up with anyone.
“She responded, ‘No wonder you’re still lonely. You refuse to help anybody unless they hook up with you. No girl wants that,'” he continued.
And with that, his mother hung up the phone. Even though he acknowledged that it was clear she had been drinking before calling him, he couldn’t help but feel like he wanted to cry after hearing those words come out of his own mother’s mouth.
He cares deeply about his mother and sister, but he believes that they don’t empathize with what he’s gone through or his feelings. He doesn’t think he should have an expectation to take care of his nephew all the time for his sister.
Do you think he was wrong for how he acted when his sister asked for his help?
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