He Recently Proposed, But Then He Ran Into An Old Classmate, And This Girl Is Making Him Think He Should Leave His Fiancée
This 31-year-old man proposed to his 27-year-old fiancée a couple of months back, and he originally met her four years ago.
They actually started dating when the pandemic hit, so they spent lockdown together in a country where the COVID protocols were extra crazy.
Due to all of this, they got close quickly, and they started living together almost right away, which he says really did help them to build a solid foundation in their relationship.
They also discussed what their future would look like on the earlier side of things, and they got a lot of major discussions out of the way, such as if they want to have kids and if their values align.
They found that they were on the same page about a lot of things, except the kids thing, but they’re trying to work through it.
He would characterize himself and his fiancée as the picture-perfect couple, and he thought he was as happy as he could possibly be. But then he ran into someone from his past that made him change his mind.
One of the dreams that he and his fiancée have shared involved opening up their own company, and that’s something they accomplished this year.
Now, a 30-year-old woman made an appointment at their business, and when she walked in, he was surprised to see that she was actually someone he had gone to high school with.
He said hello to his old classmate and introduced her to his fiancée before they got down to business.
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Later on, she sent him a message to say that it was wonderful to see him and they should definitely catch up.
He replied that they totally should and that maybe they could go play a sport sometime together (the same sport they shared an interest in back in high school), so they ended up doing that a week later.
The sport they played was a team sport, and they were never alone once during the time they were playing.
He and his old classmate got to chit-chatting, and their conversations were excellent, though he says completely innocent.
At the time, she told him that she is single yet completely happy with her life.
“In my 4 years with my fiancée, I have never looked at anyone else romantically,” he explained. “No interest in anyone other than my fiancée. I absolutely love her.”
“And I’ve already imagined my life with her for a long time. Our lives are already so intertwined. Family, friends; we have the company, the place, and our career together is going to skyrocket.”
But, back to his old classmate, he kept meeting up with her again to play sports with her, and although they did invite his fiancée to come with them one time, she isn’t as athletic.
So, he and his old classmate began playing weekly, and eventually, on the days they didn’t spend together, he found his thoughts consumed with her.
“She’s intelligent…(Ivy League grad), has a great career, a very close-knit family that has a lot in terms of financial stability, and just an overall good person with a lot of heart,” he said.
“Our values seem to align. I love the way she thinks. Her experiences. No bad blood. Her smile lights up any room. And the sports thing is a HUGE plus. For the last couple of weeks, I have been obsessing. Thought maybe it was just a crush, but I catch myself fantasizing about things I shouldn’t be fantasizing about.”
“…Just thinking about scenarios in which I met her sooner. About being with her. What it would be like dating her. Maybe she was the one. I’m thinking about scenarios [where] I throw everything I have with my fiancée away just to try to be with this girl. I don’t even know if she reciprocates the feeling in any degree.”
As soon as he wakes up every morning, he’s not thinking about his fiancée; he’s thinking about his old classmate.
And before he shuts his eyes and goes to sleep every evening, his old classmate is once again on his mind.
She’s literally all he can think about, and not a single day goes by where she’s not the focus of his thoughts.
Back in high school, he never thought about her like this. But everything is different today. He admires her, and she is absolutely gorgeous.
And it’s scary to him that he just keeps daydreaming about what their lives could be like if they took a chance on each other, but she has never indicated to him that she’s trying to make him leave the woman he just proposed to.
“I love my fiancée, and I genuinely was happy being beside her for the rest of my life,” he continued.
“Then this girl comes in and unknowingly makes me question if that initial happiness was enough. Like I’ve been running barefoot this whole time, grown used to it, and then someone finally gives me running shoes.”
He hates himself for feeling like this about his old classmate. He feels terribly guilt, awfully selfish, and honestly confused.
He doesn’t want to hurt his fiancée, but he knows in his heart he really, truly wants to end up with his old classmate.
Or, at the very least, he would like the opportunity to try to make things work with this girl of his dreams.
So, here he is, questioning everything. Questioning if marrying the woman he gave an engagement ring to is the right thing to do.
What advice do you have for him?
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