Her Boyfriend Berated Her For Her Weight And Basically Admitted To Leading Her On About Wanting A Second Child For The Past Five Years
This 38-year-old woman and her boyfriend, who is 44, first met about 12 years ago– when she was five-foot-eight and weighed approximately 175 pounds.
Since then, her weight has ebbed and flowed over the years. At her lowest, she once weighed about 150 pounds; meanwhile, her highest non-pregnancy weight was 215 pounds.
Right now, she is basically in the middle– coming in at 190 pounds.
She and her boyfriend also have a 6-year-old daughter, and when she first became pregnant with their child, she was also 190 pounds. Yet, her boyfriend all of a sudden has a lot to say about her weight.
For context, the issue stems back to the fact that she wants two children. She’s never hid this from her boyfriend, either, and they’ve actively tried to get pregnant again.
But, it just was not working out the way she had hoped, and her husband was eventually seen by a fertility specialist. It turned out that his fertility was of very “poor quality,” and the doctor claimed it was unlikely that she would even get pregnant.
However, it was not a death sentence. The doctor did give her boyfriend suggestions on how to improve his fertility, and she’s frustrated that he has not shown any interest in changing his bad habits.
“Like cutting down on the drinking and daily smoking,” she said.
And even though her boyfriend is the one who needs to change if they want to have another kid, he has begun attacking her own habits and physical appearance.
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For instance, she usually walks three to four miles between two and four days each week. In addition to that, she brings her daughter to the park– where she obviously walks as well.
Plus, she brings her daughter out one-on-one much more often than her boyfriend does. And whenever he wants to take their daughter somewhere, he always claims that she needs to go, too.
“If I say I would rather have alone time, he always spazzes out and twists everything around to make it about how I ‘never want to go anywhere because I’m in such bad shape,'” she revealed.
“I don’t run like I used to, more because of neck and back issues than being incapable of doing so.”
Just last night, she and her boyfriend got into another argument about her weight, too.
Apparently, they had both been drinking when she decided to head into the kitchen to grab a snack. At that point, her boyfriend made a remark about how she “always had to be eating something.”
She couldn’t believe her ears and asked her boyfriend, “Excuse me?” Nonetheless, he only doubled down.
“Why aren’t you pregnant? Oh, that’s right! Because you’re 200 pounds!” her boyfriend replied.
To be clear, she does not mind her weight. In fact, she actually likes it, and she told her boyfriend that, too.
Not to mention, she feels that the discussion about whether or not she needs to lose weight is between her and her doctor– who believes that her weight is just fine.
“I may not spend two hours a day working out, but I have time to spend with my daughter and make dinner for my family,” she added.
“And that’s more important to me than being whatever he considers the ‘ideal’ weight.”
Well, if you couldn’t have guessed, her boyfriend did not understand her perspective whatsoever. Instead, he actually lost it and freaked out on her.
“Do you want to be in a wheelchair in 10 years? Do you want to be diabetic when you’re 50? Do you want to have to get your knees replaced? Fine! Keep eating the way you do!” her boyfriend screamed.
“Your freaking mom sure as [heck] didn’t listen to anyone, and look at her! I’m not having a baby with you so you can wreck your knees and not be able to walk when you’re 40!” her boyfriend continued.
“You should want to be able to do things with your daughter and family, but you just keep eating! Are the pretzels and cookies that good? Are they worth it?”
This seriously infuriated her, too, and she also lost it– pointing out how if that’s how her boyfriend really felt about her and her weight, then he had been using her for years. After all, he knew that she wanted another baby, so she claimed that her boyfriend had just been keeping her around to pay their bills.
On top of that, she has a medical condition known as adenomyosis. So, after her daughter turned 1 year old, she was told that she needed to get a hysterectomy as soon as she was finished having kids.
“The doctor wanted me to have one right away, but I insisted I wanted to have another baby first,” she vented.
“It causes month-round intense cramping, intestinal issues, and hormone imbalance. And I’ve been waiting 5 years since then. And he knows that.”
That’s why she is so devastated. Yet, her boyfriend actually told her to sleep in their guest room after their fight?
So now, she feels like her childbearing years were purposefully wasted by her boyfriend, and she has no idea how to cope with it.
How would you feel if your partner led you on about having kids for five years? Does she deserve to be spoken to like that? Do you think she should get out of this relationship? What would you do?
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