Her Boyfriend Openly Bodyshamed Her To Their Coworkers For Having A Flat Chest
This 20-year-old woman and her boyfriend, also 20, have been dating for about one month.
Unfortunately, despite being early on in their relationship, her boyfriend has been making remarks related to her body that hurt her feelings.
All her life, she has been relatively skinny, although never underweight for her height.
She pointed out that she is flat-chested, and it’s always been something that’s made her incredibly self-conscious.
“Before we got together, my boyfriend had already made several remarks about my flat chest, to which I laughed uncomfortably and just didn’t address because I figured we weren’t dating,” she said.
In hindsight, she acknowledged that regardless of whether or not they had been dating, she should have told him to stop making these comments about her body right away.
Whenever he made these types of comments before they started dating, she would mention how she was fine with having a flat chest because the area she lived in wasn’t safe, so she was relieved that old men didn’t harass her on the streets. In her view, she had made it evident that she was self-conscious.
Over the following several weeks leading up to the start of their relationship, he didn’t make any more comments about her body, so she thought that he got the message and understood that it was inappropriate.
“A couple of weeks ago, he got a haircut, and I admit, it’s not the best. All of my co-workers came to me, making fun of him, but I defended him against them all and shut them down,” she explained.
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In her view, she didn’t think it was right to make any comments about her boyfriend’s hair because she didn’t want to hurt his ego if he was self-conscious about the way his haircut turned out.
Instead of saying anything about her boyfriend’s new haircut, she behaved the exact same way as always.
Unfortunately, this didn’t work because he started acting mean to her. In her interpretation of his behavior, it seemed like he was projecting because of his self-consciousness, and so he was tearing her down and insulting her in order to feel better about his bad haircut.
“But while we were talking to our co-workers during lunch, he randomly pointed to my chest, made a hand gesture, and said ‘flat’ twice. I immediately swatted his hand away and told him to stop. He stopped looking at me and then looked back to my co-worker and whispered ‘flat’ again for the third time. This time, I was done,” she shared.
Understandably, she felt like her boyfriend was completely out of line and had no business randomly commenting on her body, let alone in front of their co-workers.
Plus, he ignored her requests for him to stop doing so.
Prior to this incident, she had been caring for her boyfriend for a week while he was horribly ill, and the way he talked about her in front of their co-workers devastated her.
In her view, who she was as a person should matter more than what she looks like. However, her boyfriend made it seem like the only thing he pays attention to is her flat chest, which is her biggest insecurity.
Later, her boyfriend attempted to say sorry, but it was a pretty weak apology. All he said was that he wouldn’t make those comments again, and, in her opinion, that was a pathetic way of saying he was sorry.
Plus, he didn’t have any sort of explanation for why he did it in the first place. She questioned him and asked why he made those comments in front of their co-workers, and he didn’t have an answer. He told her he had no idea why he’d done it.
Then, her boyfriend told the rest of the co-workers who hadn’t been present at the time about what happened, so this meant that everyone she worked with now knew the part of her body that she was most self-conscious of, which was obviously none of their business.
Her boyfriend’s birthday is quickly approaching, and now she’s wondering whether or not she should give him the presents that she’d already purchased ahead of time. She made one of the gifts herself.
What would you do if you were in her shoes?
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