Her Brother Called Off His Wedding And Took Back The Engagement Ring After His Fiancée Tried To Force Her To Pay For The Whole Wedding
Three years ago, this 27-year-old woman’s brother, 30, met his fiancée, Ella, 28, at a party.
Even though her brother seemed happy in the relationship, she and Ella never got along, but she tried to be civil when she was around her.
“Ella was mean to me a lot, like A LOT. She would make comments about my weight, my makeup, and especially my dog. She hated animals and hated that I would bring my lab, Toast, to my parents’ or my brother’s house. It always just felt like something aimed to hurt me,” she explained.
She said that Ella’s nasty comments could be described as “mean girl comments” done in a carefully crafted way so that her brother or other people listening wouldn’t pick up on the weight shaming.
She gave examples of Ella asking, “‘Oh, are you sure you want to go out in that? Something looser might be more comfortable,'” or saying, “‘I would loan you a shirt, but I don’t want it to stretch out.'”
After her brother proposed, Ella asked her to be her maid of honor. Ella didn’t have any sisters and apparently didn’t have many female friends, claiming that she lost friends due to them being jealous of her, and she even accused former friends of having crushes on her brother.
Despite Ella’s poor treatment towards her, she decided to accept the offer to be her maid of honor when she saw how happy her brother was at the idea. However, she quickly regretted her decision.
“What I failed to realize when I accepted the role was that to her, maid of honor meant planning the entire wedding. Like I was booking venues, florists, the jazz band, everything. Even worse, she expected me to put MY credit card down for all of it,” she shared.
Apparently, years ago, Ella’s parents had promised that she would have an impressive wedding budget that they were setting aside for her.
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But over the years, and especially throughout the pandemic, they had to start using some of the money from the wedding budget.
Because of this, Ella received only about a third of what she’d initially anticipated from her parents. Ella then said that most of the money would have to go towards her wedding dress, and she constantly complained about how she now wouldn’t be able to afford the wedding she wanted.
About a week after Ella began complaining about not having the wedding she thought she deserved, her brother came to her to ask if she could pay for some of the wedding expenses, promising that Ella’s parents would foot the bill for the rest of the wedding, and also pay her back.
Since she had a good job and was financially secure and knew that her brother and Ella didn’t make a lot of money or have enough money saved to cover the entire wedding, she didn’t have an issue with this at first.
However, the number of deposits held on her credit card quickly became overwhelming, and she was concerned about when Ella’s parents would be paying her back.
Whenever she inquired about this, Ella would assure her that her parents would pay her back before the wedding.
The situation came to a head last week, three weeks before the wedding.
“Ella is unbearable to be around. She can’t last more than a few sentences before snapping at anyone,” she shared.
“So, when I, of course, brought up the money, it hit the fan. I asked if she had received the updated receipt of everything owed when she exploded.”
“She called me a whole line of terrible names, but the one that stuck was her saying, ‘What do you need the money for anyway? Your sick dog is dead now.'”
Sadly, her dog, Toasty, had died a month prior due to cancer. She was understandably heartbroken, so this horrible comment from Ella was too much to bear.
Without a word, she left the room and walked outside to her car. Ella followed her out, trying to continue the fight while simultaneously getting angrier and meaner, but she ignored her, got in her car, and drove away.
Once she reached her house 20 minutes later, she called all the vendors that had deposits held under her credit card and canceled every single one.
It added up to nearly 20 phone calls in total, and the only calls left that she had to make were for the wedding dress and flower arch for the ceremony.
After that, she texted her brother to let him know what she’d done, and she told him that he and Ella were now responsible for paying for the entire wedding.
She also informed him that the vendors would be contacting him to see if he and Ella would wish to still use their services. She ended the conversation by telling her brother that she wasn’t attending his wedding anymore.
Then, Ella kept trying to reach out to her, repeatedly telling her in messages that she was selfish in making the situation all about herself. When Ella didn’t stop calling and texting, she turned off her phone.
For two days after the incident, the only person she talked to was her mom, who took her side and understood why she reacted the way she did.
Her brother called her, but she didn’t answer at first because she felt horrible about the situation with what she did and what Ella said to her.
She finally answered the phone when her brother called her again, and she learned that he and Ella were taking a break from their relationship, and he took back the engagement ring.
Even though throughout the years Ella was mostly on better behavior around him, he recently started to pick up on concerning warning signs, but he’d brushed them aside and assumed she was just stressed from wedding planning.
Apparently, Ella had given her brother an alternate, inaccurate version of the story and framed herself to be the victim who was yelled at.
Since the incident, no one from her family has talked to Ella, not even her brother.
Despite canceling all the deposits under her credit card, she still lost some money. Evidently, it turned out that Ella had hoped that she would just pay for the vendors as a gift, not expecting to be paid back.
“Ella had told my brother that she was waiting for a surprise check from her grandparents to completely pay it off. The check didn’t exist,” she said.
Luckily, Ella’s parents will sell the wedding dress so that they can pay her back for the money she lost so that she doesn’t have to take legal action.
While it will take time, she does believe that her relationship with her brother can be repaired through healthier boundaries and a break from talking for a while so that they can heal.
And even though she knew that she couldn’t just ignore Ella’s heartless comments, she still felt sad for ruining her brother’s wedding.
Do you think she did the right thing?
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