Her Fiancé Wants Her To Sign A Prenup Because He’s Worried That She Could Cheat And Take His Money, But That Doesn’t Make Any Sense To Her Since They Earn Six Figures
Several months ago, this woman and her fiancé got engaged.
After dating for two years, her then-boyfriend told her that if they got married, he would want a prenup.
While she wasn’t worried about the idea of signing a prenup at first, she did think about how, during the first year of their relationship, she paid three months of his part of the rent because he’d been laid off from his job.
Up until that point, her fiancé had been earning more money and paying more than she did, but she thought it wasn’t fair that she did this for him when he never paid her back the rent money that she loaned him.
Plus, she didn’t feel comfortable with the idea of signing a prenup that would state he wouldn’t provide her with financial support if they divorced.
“He explained he was just worried because men get cheated all the time with divorces. I felt like he just saw me as a greedy gold-digger, even though we are both six-figure earners,” she said.
She works as a technical writer while he has a job as a programmer.
Also, she was concerned because her fiancé started watching certain inflammatory videos that were negative regarding women. He would constantly parrot their talking points, claiming that men get the short end of the stick when it comes to the dating world and relationships with women.
Ironically, her fiancé’s parents have a wonderful and successful marriage; his sister married her boyfriend from college, and they are extremely happy, and the majority of his friends are in healthy relationships.
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“I’m his second relationship, and his first relationship was with his high school sweetheart. They broke up because they were leaving for different colleges. He has never personally experienced any bad relationships,” she explained.
In her view, it seems clear that her fiancé’s negative perspective is coming directly from the media he’s watching.
Even though she’s not opposed to prenups, she acknowledged that she and her fiancé make similar salaries, and their families don’t have any significant assets to leave them.
“We also want kids, and that means I would have to take time off work, and he works more hours than me, so I’d probably be doing more housework and childcare. Even at home now, I do more cleaning,” she shared.
A year ago, she brought up her concerns about the prenup to her fiancé, and he acted as if he understood her opinions.
But since they got engaged not long ago, he mentioned the idea of a prenup once more, and she again expressed that she thought “it wouldn’t make much sense,” adding that she believed it wouldn’t be fair to her, particularly because she would be taking maternity leave after having children and would need help from him during that time.
When she said this, her fiancé was angry, ranting about how men are taken advantage of by women in marriages, and he claimed that a decade into their marriage, there was the possibility that she could have an affair and take all of his money in a divorce.
She was understandably stunned, and now she’s debating on whether she should break up with her fiancé because she doesn’t feel comfortable signing a prenup, and he doesn’t trust that she wouldn’t take advantage of him financially.
What advice would you give her?
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