She Wants Her Fiancé’s Stepdad To Walk Her Down The Aisle, And Now She’s Getting A Lot Of Grief For Not Choosing Her Biological Father, Who Wasn’t Such A Great Dad
Even though it’s traditional, not every bride chooses to have her biological father walk them down the aisle.
Some choose to have their mom do it, a grandparent, a sibling, etc.
One woman wants her fiancé’s stepdad to walk her down the aisle, and now she’s getting a lot of grief for not choosing her biological father, who wasn’t such a great dad.
She’s getting married to her fiancé in May. They’ve been together for six years, and in that time, she’s become really close to his family, particularly his stepdad.
Her fiancé’s stepdad married his mom when he was only three years old and has been his primary father figure since then. When her fiancé’s mom died while he was a teenager, his stepdad stepped up to the plate and raised him by himself, as if he were his biological son.
“His stepdad let him stay at home until he was 26 and even trained him to be a mechanic like himself,” she explained.
“I have a lot of respect for his stepdad [for] raising a child that’s not his own and helping us both when we needed it.”
Her fiancé’s stepdad once co-signed on their first home together because they didn’t have jobs yet, and he still helps them when they need it.
On the other hand, her dad is a very different man from her fiancé’s stepdad.
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“My own bio father is a deadbeat to me,” she said.
“He dated my mom when they were both young and then left when I was born. He didn’t give us money, and my mom never asked [for it], which is crazy, if you ask me. I found out after I was an adult that he never wanted me.”
Her dad went off and created a whole new life for himself, and now she has half-siblings that she hardly knows. Her dad’s new family was living a comfortable, middle-class life while she and her mom suffered on their own.
For these reasons, she decided she’d rather have her fiancé’s stepdad, who’s been more fatherly toward her, walk her down the aisle instead of her biological dad.
Despite it all, she and her mom are still in contact with her dad, and she was very upset when she found out that her mom went ahead and told her dad about her wedding decision.
“I was mad at my mom for telling him, but she thinks I should forgive [him] and let him walk me down the aisle because no matter how much my fiancé’s stepdad helped, he isn’t family,” she recalled.
“I don’t consider my bio father family either.”
Should she feel bad for wanting her fiancé’s stepdad to walk her down the aisle?
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