His Girlfriend Wants Him To Cut Off A Female Friend, But He’s Refusing Because His Girlfriend Has Guy Friends, And It Just Feels Like She Doesn’t Trust Him
For nearly two years, this 25-year-old man has been in a relationship with his girlfriend, 23.
Not long ago, they got into a fight because she wanted him to cut off contact with one of his female friends, 21.
He and the friend in question met because they had mutual friends in common and because the two of them were from the same country, they started talking.
The friendship with this woman is platonic, and he has only ever thought of this woman as a friend.
The two of them don’t hang out one-on-one, they don’t text or call each other on a regular basis, and the only time they get together is within a group of friends.
“I didn’t know my girlfriend had an issue with our friendship until a few weeks ago when she got upset that I was speaking with my friend in my native language. After that, she’s kept hounding me about it, telling me to block the girl on everything and stop talking to her,” he said.
He doesn’t believe this would be fair because his girlfriend has quite a few male friends, and he’s never had a problem with this. From his perspective, he and his girlfriend have built a foundation of trust within their relationship, so he’s never felt like he’s had to worry about any of her friendships with men.
When his girlfriend expressed her discomfort with this friendship, he told her that he had just been excited to meet someone from his native country, and there was nothing nefarious going on. He assured her that he and the woman were only friends.
His girlfriend told him that since he wasn’t super close with this woman, it shouldn’t be difficult for him to end the friendship.
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He reiterated that this was an unfair request for her to make, and he said that he didn’t understand what the point was of cutting off contact with this friend in the first place, and he was confused about why his girlfriend was uncomfortable with the friendship.
Throughout their discussions, his girlfriend hasn’t backed down, regardless of the arguments he’s made.
He’s worried that if he does stop talking to this woman, it won’t resolve the issue. It concerns him that his girlfriend might still bring up this friendship even if he ends communication with his friend.
“She’s showing she doesn’t trust me, and that bothers me because I trust her fully and pretty much give her all of my attention. I don’t think it’s wrong for people of different genders to be friends, and I didn’t think my girlfriend thought any different until now,” he shared.
He wonders if it’s strange that he doesn’t mind the idea of his girlfriend being friends with men and thinks it’s acceptable to have friends who are women.
Sadly, his girlfriend still hasn’t dropped the subject, and it’s frustrating that he doesn’t feel like his own girlfriend trusts him.
The last couple of days, he’s been open with her about how he feels and how much her distrust of him upsets him.
He’s done his best to ask his girlfriend why she feels so uneasy about this particular friendship, but the conversations keep going in circles.
Despite this, he doesn’t want to break up with her because he loves her a lot.
At the same time, he doesn’t know what to do.
He’s been attempting to comprehend his girlfriend’s view on the issue more clearly so that they can resolve their differing opinions, but he doesn’t think his girlfriend has tried to see his side at all.
Now, it’s difficult for him to see how they can progress in their relationship in a healthy way.
Understandably, he doesn’t want to continue putting in all of this effort if they’ll just go their separate ways in the end due to their unhappiness.
What advice would you give him?
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