His Teenaged Son’s Girlfriend Is Pretty Toxic, So He’s Been Trying To Get His Son To Break Up With Her
For the last 18 months, this man’s son, D’Khari, 17, has been in a relationship with Violet, 16.
While D’Khari has met Violet’s entire family, she won’t meet his.
Several times, he’s invited Violet to get together with their family for different holidays, to join them for dinner, and even on vacation so that she feels welcome and knows that they’re including her in their family get-togethers.
He’s been introduced to all of his other children’s partners, but Violet won’t talk to him on the phone or text him.
In his view, this is worrying, and he’s told D’Khari several times that he’s concerned about how Violet is refusing to meet the family.
After voicing his views, he and D’Khari have had tension.
From D’Khari’s perspective, he’s not being fair to Violet because he has such negative thoughts about her without having met her.
During their conversations, he told D’Khari that he doesn’t appreciate the fact that Violet won’t even say hello to him.
D’Khari let Violet know this, but she hasn’t changed her avoidant behavior.
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Violet used to pull into his family’s driveway when she and D’Khari had plans to hang out, but now she won’t even park in their driveway.
“My son’s friends have started to reach out to me saying that D’Khari has stopped hanging out after practice and rarely answers his phone/texts when he’s with her. She has told two of them to their faces that she does not like them and will do everything she can to get them out of his life (another red flag),” he said.
Once he learned about how Violet clearly is attempting to isolate D’Khari from his loved ones, he told his son that what Violet was doing wasn’t healthy, warning him to be cautious and aware of how his life has been changing by this relationship.
He also expressed that toxic people aren’t attractive.
Over the past few weeks, he doesn’t feel like he’s been getting through to his son. D’Khari hasn’t listened to his pleas to break up with Violet, so he’s decided to try a new tactic.
Recently, he’s been mentioning other activities D’Khari could do or other people he could hang out with to try to see if this could help his son build a life outside of Violet.
“My older kids said that I’m overreacting due to being a past domestic abuse survivor,” he explained.
In his children’s view, he’s being a jerk for trying to convince D’Khari to look elsewhere for fulfillment and socialization.
“I just don’t want him to become a victim of this behavior, nor do I want to think this is acceptable. It is downright rude and controlling,” he shared.
Now, he doesn’t have any other ideas of how to support his son.
He wonders if he should allow D’Khari to make his own decisions without constantly sharing his views or trying to give advice.
What would you do if you were in his shoes?
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