She Told Her Sister It’s All Her Fault Her Family Is A Disaster, Since She Was The One Who Insisted On Adopting
This woman has a 38-year-old sister named Lucy who always dreamed of having a large family. Lucy and her 40-year-old husband Tom had their 9-year-old son Logan, but after Lucy suffered some complications, she was told she could never have more children after Logan.
Lucy was crushed by this, and three years ago, she said she wanted to adopt. Tom never showed a preference for adopting; he only wanted Lucy to be happy.
As for Logan, he insisted that he did not want a brother or a sister. Despite Logan’s concerns and Tom not being decisive, Lucy believed her family would eventually come around to being as excited as she was to adopt.
Lucy and her family got matched with an 11-year-old boy named Jack, and although Lucy promised they were all bonding just fine, she could spot Jack’s behavioral issues from a mile away.
She also noticed that Tom was not thrilled about Jack, and he even made remarks that he was concerned about Jack due to the trauma the boy suffered in his past.
“Lucy adored Jack and rubbished these concerns,” she explained. “I brought up Tom’s hesitation, but Lucy said it was just taking longer for him to bond.”
“They officially adopted Jack about a year ago, and since then, things have fallen apart. Jack’s behavior has either got a lot worse, or Lucy wasn’t speaking about it as much before, but it’s clear Tom is at his wit’s end.”
“According to Lucy, he works late constantly, and whenever Jack has a tantrum, he helps Lucy calm him down and then takes Logan and leaves the house. Logan now hates Jack and won’t play with him, which causes more issues, and he’s started to act out. He spent his last school holiday with my family and is set to spend Christmas with us again because even the family therapist says it’s good for him to have some space.”
As she has watched Lucy’s family turn into a complete and utter trainwreck, it has broken her heart.
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Every time she sees Tom and Logan, they look more and more upset, and Lucy won’t admit it, but she’s starting to seem miserable too. Any time she does attempt to talk to Lucy, Lucy will say things are hard, yet she blames Tom and Logan for everything.
Lucy will not acknowledge the part she’s playing in all of this, and she will not listen when their family voices concerns to her.
Several days back, Lucy called her up to talk about what they should do for Christmas, as well as when Tom will be taking Logan to her house. While discussing Christmas plans, Lucy went on a tirade about how Tom has checked out with her and Jack, and she suspects he’s about to leave their family.
“She was calling him every name in the book and then started saying she was disappointed that Logan doesn’t love Jack, and she can’t believe she raised a bully,” she said.
“I lost it. I told her the real bully was her, she bullied her family into adoption as a form of wish fulfillment, and Tom shouldn’t have indulged her, but most of the blame falls on her for destroying her family. She screamed and cried and eventually called me evil and hung up.”
Her parents think it was cruel of her to simply tell Lucy what’s on all of their minds, but she believes Lucy needed that dose of honesty. It also bothers her that Lucy is blaming her own son for not being happy to live in the mess she made.
Still, she’s left wondering if her parents are right and it was mean of her to outline to Lucy it’s all her fault for making her family into a disaster.
What do you think?
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