She Was Asked To Help Cook For Her Boyfriend’s Sister’s Nuptials, But She Thinks It’s “Very Rude” And “Classless” To Expect Guests To Work At A Wedding
This 21-year-old woman currently has a boyfriend, who is also 21. And recently, she was invited to her boyfriend’s sister’s wedding, which will take place at his grandparents’ cabin.
Apparently, the cabin was also where her boyfriend’s parents tied the knot, and from what she knows so far, his sister’s big day will probably be more non-traditional.
Anyway, her boyfriend’s grandmother initially offered to cater the event for his sister’s 70 guests.
“But his grandma has now changed her mind and stated that she’ll need help from me and likely other women in the family,” she said.
Her boyfriend’s grandma didn’t directly ask her for her help, though, and instead asked through her boyfriend– who claimed he would talk to her but that she would “likely say yes.”
However, in her mind, the bride and groom never requested that she pitch in. It was just her boyfriend’s grandma, who originally agreed to take care of all the cooking.
It’s also important to note that her boyfriend will be the best man at the wedding. Yet, he has volunteered to help out by bartending, and while she realizes that he had good intentions, she’s not sure how being both the best man and a bartender will work out logistically.
“And so, I find it very strange that as a best man, he will be bartending and working the wedding,” she explained.
“But he doesn’t seem to mind.”
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In terms of her own contributions, she is also pretty upset that she was asked to help with cooking since she was invited as a guest.
She’s not too keen on pitching in since she realizes that she’ll have to clean or cook while all of the other guests get to eat and enjoy the big day– which she doesn’t think is right.
“I believe it’s unfair for their grandmother to redistribute this labor to family members who were initially invited to enjoy and celebrate the special day,” she admitted.
After all, she never offered to help. But now, she’s been put in an awkward position, and if she refuses to pitch in, it’ll make her look like a jerk.
So, she tried to talk to her boyfriend about the situation, but they just got into a big argument.
“Because I told him I was upset over it, and I find it very rude and classless to expect a guest to work your wedding,” she vented.
And now, with her and her boyfriend in a fight over the event, she’s been left wondering if not wanting to help cook at the wedding is justified or if she’s really just overreacting.
How would you feel if your boyfriend basically agreed that you’d help out on your behalf? Does she have a right to not want to pitch in? Even so, if she declines to help, won’t it alter her relationship with her boyfriend’s family in the future? What would you do if you were in her shoes?
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