She’s Upset That Her Long-Distance Boyfriend And His Female Coworker Decided To Dress Up As Travis Kelce And Taylor Swift Together For Halloween, But Her Boyfriend Accused Her Of Not Trusting Him Enough
This 22-year-old woman and her boyfriend, Matt, 23, have been in a relationship for three years.
They met at the college they attended in Kentucky, and after two years of dating, they decided to live together until they both graduated.
Originally, they both had planned to get their Master’s degrees, but after finishing his undergraduate degree in the spring, her boyfriend had surgery and changed his mind about continuing his education.
Instead, he started job hunting, and he eventually landed a position in Illinois.
She still has a few semesters left before she can graduate, so instead of moving to Illinois with Matt, she decided to stay in Kentucky and wait until she was done with school to make the move.
“The reason being is I don’t want to change my life that drastically for someone I’m not either engaged or married to, and he fully understood and accepts this,” she said.
For the last three months, her relationship with Matt has been long-distance. This was a huge change from when they used to live together and see one another all the time.
Since she’s busy with classes and his work schedule is intense and includes a lot of trips, it’s been a struggle for the two of them.
She’s never felt concerned that Matt would be unfaithful to her, and she couldn’t ever see him doing something like that in the future. He’s never done anything shady throughout their entire relationship so far.
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Matt works mostly with women at his job, but she’s not worried about that because his relationships with other women have never crossed a line or caused any issues.
In her view, cheaters wouldn’t be as open about who they work with as Matt has been with her.
Halloween has always been one of her favorite holidays.
She has so much fun making unique, intricate costumes instead of buying a costume from the store. Her costumes are always one-of-a-kind, and since she and Matt have started dating, she’s always had a blast brainstorming and creating couple costumes for them.
“He isn’t fond of costumes in general, but he does it for me because he knows how much it means to me. This year, we just weren’t able to be together for Halloween to do a costume. But the day before the 31st, he called me after work and told me that everyone is dressing up at work in costumes and that he and a female co-worker would be going as Travis Kelce and Taylor Swift,” she explained.
She’s unsure why, but she was devastated to hear this. Throughout the remainder of the call with Matt, she couldn’t even speak.
Understandably, she was upset that out of all the costume ideas out there, he and a co-worker chose to dress up as people who are a real-life couple.
Eventually, she told Matt how she felt, but he couldn’t see her perspective. From his view, she was making a big deal out of it, and he explained that they were dressing up for a contest, and there was a monetary prize for the winners, but he only gave this explanation after she told him how hurt she was.
“I never asked him not to do the costume but to understand why I may be upset. He is now expressing that I don’t have trust in him and brings up how I have male friends,” she shared.
However, she only hangs out with male friends when she gets together with a big group of friends.
Plus, Matt has always trusted her in the past, and she thought they’d had a good foundation of reciprocal trust.
During the conversation, Matt was mad and minimized her emotions.
Later, he told her that this topic isn’t something they should continue to argue about or allow there to be division between them over it, and she felt the same way.
At the same time, she can’t help but feel anxious about Matt dressing up as a couple with a female co-worker, and his reaction to her concerns made her feel even worse about the whole thing.
The co-worker in question is engaged and living with her fiancé.
While she acknowledged that cheating can still occur even when people are engaged, she doesn’t think she has to worry about this as a possibility.
She doesn’t understand why she is so concerned about all of this and wonders if she has the right to feel upset that Matt is dressing up as a couple with a female co-worker.
What advice would you give her?
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