He Broke Up With His Girlfriend Just Five Days Before They Were Set To Move In Together And Left Her Homeless
This guy and his girlfriend have been dating for the past seven months, and due to a change in their “life circumstances,” his girlfriend planned to move into his apartment for one month before they both moved 16 hours away together.
He admitted that, while agreeing to this plan, he was worried that they were rushing into things. However, he needed to begin a work contract, and he didn’t want to remain in his hometown.
So, he tried to push his concerns aside. By Christmas Eve, though, it became clear that he had a right to be worried.
Out of nowhere, his girlfriend texted him that night, claiming to have had issues with their relationship over the past month.
She also said that she hadn’t planned to speak up about her feelings, but given the fact that she was upset about his Christmas presents not being “personal” enough, she wanted to confront him.
His girlfriend admitted that she needed to know if he was 100% “in it” for their move to a new town together.
This pushed them to hope on a FaceTime call that same night, openly discussing how they were at the point of either committing to moving in together or breaking up.
Well, following that conversation, he received a four-paragraph message from his girlfriend where she detailed all of the things she wanted him to “fix” in their relationship. According to him, most of these problems were related to love languages and better communication.
“But she had never brought up issues like these or a discussion of what she needed from her partner if we were to move before,” he said.
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So, as soon as he read through the entire list, he told his girlfriend that he just couldn’t make any promises that he would be able to “fix” every single thing if they moved in together.
He also started to get worried about his girlfriend’s expectations and decided to call it quits right then and there.
So, as soon as he read through the entire list, he told his girlfriend that he just couldn’t make any promises that he would be able to “fix” every single thing if they moved in together.
He also started to get worried about his girlfriend’s expectations and decided to call it quits right then and there.
“I did not want it to blow up in our faces several months down the line when we were in a lease together, and I broke up with her the next day,” he revealed.
Now, the big problem is that his girlfriend’s lease was supposed to end in five days since she had planned to move in with him. Given their break-up, though, his girlfriend is instead being forced to stay with her friends and grandparents.
This has left him feeling like a major jerk, too, since he believes that he “robbed” his girlfriend of her apartment when she easily could have just extended the lease and remained in their town. So, he feels like he left a massive mess for his girlfriend to clean up. On the other hand, though, he thinks he might have made the best decision in the long run.
“My gut tells me if I didn’t do it, then [our relationship] would have hit the fan after moving 16 hours away together, and it would have been a bigger mess,” he vented.
Still, his girlfriend has now been left “literally homeless” after ending her lease for him. That’s why he can’t help but wonder if breaking up with his girlfriend just five days before they were set to move in together was really a jerky move.
Can you understand why he feels guilty about the timing of their breakup? Even so, do you agree that it was better to get it over with sooner rather than later? What would you’ve done in his shoes?
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