He Had A Gut Feeling That His Girlfriend Cheated On Him, And He Doesn’t Know If He Can Trust Her Anymore
Four years ago, this 27-year-old man was in a relationship with his girlfriend, 26, of six years.
At the time, he started to suspect that something was going on because his girlfriend’s tone seemed different through text messages.
Later, she told him that she hadn’t been happy in this relationship in quite some time, and she expressed her frustration with the lack of attention he paid to the relationship.
He felt like she had a point because when she brought this up, he was studying a lot to become a surgeon.
His girlfriend said that if he wanted to stay together, their relationship needed to improve. He accepted her perspective and assured her that he would put in more effort.
Several days after this talk, his girlfriend randomly brought up an old friend of hers who she hadn’t seen or spoken to since the beginning of this relationship.
Apparently, the old friend started following her on Instagram. This friend was also in a relationship and had been since she knew him.
She told him that she sent her friend a message to ask his relationship with his girlfriend relationship was going.
“From then, I had this strange gut feeling, and I asked her if she wanted to break up with me because she started to fall for someone else,” he said.
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“She told me that he was only a friend, that they had been talking for a month and a half at that point, and that he was venting with her because he was having problems with his girlfriend.”
The issues in her friend’s relationship were so bad that he assumed his girlfriend would be dumping him soon.
Meanwhile, the relationship with his girlfriend seemed to get better, but he couldn’t shake the sneaking suspicion he had that she was potentially engaging in an emotional affair with her friend.
His girlfriend continued communicating with her friend, and he attempted to peek at her phone to see the messages, but he could only read one message.
In the message that he saw, his girlfriend advised her friend to do what she did within her relationship in an attempt to improve it.
She said that he could tell his girlfriend that if she didn’t step up her game, he would break up with her.
Eventually, he asked his girlfriend if he could read the entire conversation between her and her friend.
“She got very defensive and told me there was nothing between them and that I should believe her after six years together,” he explained.
“Then, she confessed to me that after a while of him venting, she started to vent, too, telling him she was unhappy, that she felt unloved, and that it seemed like I didn’t care about the relationship. She even told him past mistakes I made.”
At the time, he accepted that she was telling the truth. However, the bad feeling that she was up to something returned, and she finally stopped communicating with her friend.
In total, his girlfriend and her friend had been messaging each other for three months. As time progressed, he still couldn’t move forward, and he continued to feel like his girlfriend was keeping information from him about what she had been up to with her friend.
Whenever he brought this up, she always assured him that the only thing they did was rant about their relationships. She was adamant that nothing more happened.
Three years after the situation, he could no longer continue coping with these uncomfortable suspicions.
“So, I gave her an ultimatum: ‘Tell me what you are hiding. If I discover anything later, it’s over.’ Then, she confessed that he invited her for a coffee, and she accepted without telling me because, for her, it was not a big deal, and she didn’t want to argue over a coffee with a friend. She later realized the mistake she made but didn’t tell me because she thought I would end the relationship,” he shared.
According to his girlfriend, she didn’t have any more contact with her friend aside from when he reached out to her a year ago.
Her friend sent her a message because his girlfriend dumped him. In response, she told him not to talk to her anymore since it made her boyfriend feel uneasy.
After hearing this, he wanted to look at her phone to read the messages, but she said she’d deleted the conversation.
Now, a year later, he still has thoughts about this situation in the back of his head and wonders if there’s more to the story.
Recently, his girlfriend started a new job where most of the employees at the company are men.
He’s concerned that if she gets close to one of her co-workers, the entire situation will repeat where she and a man will rant to each other about their relationships.
In addition, he said that his girlfriend doesn’t see an issue with men and women being friends with one another, but he has problems with it.
Over the years, she has always expressed her deep love for him. She’s been his emotional support through his struggles with depression and panic attacks.
From his perspective, the only thing his girlfriend has done within the relationship that upsets him is her actions within the situation with her friend.
He believes that she didn’t respect his boundaries because, throughout their entire relationship, he’s told her that he doesn’t want her hanging out with another guy one-on-one.
What advice would you give him?
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