Her Boyfriend Dumped Her On Christmas After Saying He’s Falling Out Of Love With Her
For the last four years, this 24-year-old girl and her 26-year-old boyfriend have been together after originally meeting at a house party back in college. They knew one another for a year before they decided to start dating.
Her boyfriend used to be a wonderful guy, according to her. He would spoil her nonstop, always paid for everything, and had an itinerary for every activity he planned for them.
“I know I have been lacking and don’t put so much effort [in] as him, but he knew I have trouble expressing my feelings,” she explained.
When 2023 started, her boyfriend mentioned that he would really like to get married to her. She simply laughed and said she doesn’t want to get married.
She believes she’s too young, and she wants to be able to enjoy the freedom she has right now, so that’s why she had no interest in talking more about that kind of commitment.
Then, her boyfriend brought up having a family and moving to a smaller kind of city where he can have more opportunities.
She continuously turned down all of her boyfriend’s dreams, as she has been struggling to figure out what she wants in her own life. To be honest, she is neither proud nor happy about where she is, and that’s that.
Her boyfriend ended up going away on a trip, and when he arrived home, things were definitely different between them.
He stopped putting in the effort he had always shown her, and she had to be the one to ask him to go on dates.
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There was no reciprocating on his end, and he would easily go a week without seeing her. She decided to conduct a test, and she stopped texting him for several days to see what would happen.
She was surprised when her boyfriend didn’t send her a message or call her, so she asked him what was going on.
He told her quite calmly that he believed he was falling out of love with her. She pressed him for an answer as to why that was happening, and he said he figured she deserved better.
Several more months went by, and she thought his being more distant had to just be a phase he was going through, as she witnessed him pulling back more and more.
She saw that he put more time, energy, and attention into other people and things; at her expense. She started to panic and realized she needed to work on herself.
She even began bringing up marriage with her boyfriend, as she was afraid he was going to leave her.
Sadly, when she said this, he informed her that he wasn’t sure he still wanted to get married to her at all before requesting some space from her.
In the next several weeks following that conversation, her boyfriend didn’t text her or call her. An entire month went by, and she reached out to him.
“He’s never been the same again,” she said. “I was crying and asking him not to break up with me. I can be ready for marriage or whatever he wants.”
“He just shrugged his shoulder and cried he felt that his feelings were slowly fading away. He cried cause he doesn’t know how to stop it, and he doesn’t want to give up on me, but he’s not really happy anymore. I told him I’ll make it up to him.”
“I’ve been more expressive, and almost feels like I went back on track. I thought [we were] getting better and that we overcome those obstacles. He didn’t celebrate Christmas Eve with me as we normally do. He went to my parent’s house on Christmas Day where I was celebrating…[and] he broke up with me.”
She could not believe that he dumped her on Christmas, and after he did, she tried calling him; however, he’s been ignoring her.
He even blocked her on social media. His sister then said that he’s planning on moving away completely.
She spoke to his parents, who told her that her now ex-boyfriend sobbed in front of them because he couldn’t figure out how to save their relationship and blamed himself for losing the love he had for her.
“I don’t know how my life ended up like this,” she continued. “I think I deserve better, especially [since] we’ve been together for 4 years.”
What advice do you have for her?
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