She Went Off On Her Disabled Friend After She Didn’t Take Her Medication On Vacation, Causing Her To Miss Out On Expensive Activities They’d Planned
As you get older, you’ll ideally be surrounded by friends and family who know how to take proper care of themselves, so you don’t have to worry about them. Unfortunately, that isn’t always the case.
One woman recently had an outburst because her disabled friend didn’t take her medication, which complicated their vacation.
She’s 26-years-old and is close with a group of friends around her age. One of those friends is Sadie, who is 27 and disabled. Sadie’s disability is fairly manageable because of the medication she takes. However, she can be irresponsible with taking her pills and often has to deal with flare-ups because of it.
Sadie also has a habit of “forgetting” to take her pills whenever their friend group is doing something she doesn’t want to do to get out of it.
Recently, their friend group decided to go on a trip together. It was a trip they had planned for over a year, and it was very expensive.
They decided to make an itinerary where everyone got to choose a fun day activity for the entire group to participate in.
Unfortunately, Sadie made their trip rather difficult. On their first vacation day, her friend group had to rent a car and drive to their accommodations.
“Due to the length of the drive, everyone was going to be driving an hour to get to our destination,” she said.
“Right before it was Sadie’s turn, she had a flare-up and could not drive. Our friend took over. The next morning, my friend had planned a tour of the town. We all reminded Sadie several times to take her medication as this was an expensive tour, and we did not want it to be cut short. Well, she had forgotten, and the tour had to be cut short.”
Svetlana Sokolova – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Everyone in the group quickly started getting upset with Sadie because she began interfering with activities that cost a lot of money.
Throughout the trip, Sadie kept having flare-ups, so everyone had to remind her to take her medication.
There was one day on the trip that went smoothly, as Sadie stayed updated on her pills, but everything fell apart the next day.
That day, she had planned to take the friend group horseback riding on a beautiful, scenic trail. It was an expensive activity, but she knew it would be fabulous. However, when everyone got on their horses, she got partnered up with Sadie. About 1/4th of the way on the trail, Sadie started having a flare-up.
“I told her that I would not be turning around, as this was expensive, and that I was truly looking forward to this,” she recalled.
“She begged me to turn around. Finally, the ranger told us that I had to turn around with her as she was my partner.”
“In the car, I told her that she knew how important this was to me and that she just should’ve taken the pills. She told me that I was being ableist and that I didn’t know what the pills did to her.”
She and Sadie then got into a big argument, and she told her that if her disability prevented her from being a good friend, she shouldn’t have gone on the group trip.
After telling her other friends about their argument, some agreed that Sadie deserved to be scolded for wasting so many activities, but others said she should’ve been less harsh and more empathetic of Sadie’s condition.
Was she wrong to confront Sadie, or were her feelings valid?
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