She’s Taller Than Her Boyfriend, And His Insecurity About This Has Tanked Her Confidence
For close to three years now, this 23-year-old girl and her 23-year-old boyfriend have been in a relationship.
She is taller than him, and her height has always been a source of insecurity for her. She says being as tall as she is makes her feel like she’s a man. She’s 5’11”, for reference, and her boyfriend is 5’7″.
“I struggle with feeling feminine even while wearing cute girly dresses and makeup,” she explained.
“I wish I was one of those short, tiny girls instead. I try to embrace my height as everybody tells me, but I just can’t.”
“The fact that my boyfriend tells me not to wear platform shoes because it makes him feel shorter makes me feel worse.”
She adores the platform shoes and sneakers that she has since she doesn’t like how flatter shoes look on her.
She also doesn’t think that her preferred shoes add that much to her height anyway since she’s already super tall.
However, her boyfriend feels like those extra couple of inches her shoes add make her feel ridiculously tall, and that makes her feel terrible about herself.
“He literally had anxiety when I wore platforms with him in public,” she said. “It makes me feel like he’d rather be with a girl shorter than him, and it hurts.”
Natalia – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“I just don’t feel like I’m his type. When I walk with him, I try to slouch so I’m not as tall. And while we hold hands, instead of slightly lifting his hand to meet mine, he sort of drags my hand down, and it gets very uncomfortable to have my arm stretched down like that.”
She thinks her confidence has tanked ever since she started dating her boyfriend. It also hurts her that she has witnessed him liking a ton of pictures other girls post on social media, especially since none of these girls look anything like her.
While her boyfriend tells her every single day that he loves her and treats her with kindness outside of her height, she can’t help but get the feeling that he’s simply settling for her.
She’s left doubting that she and her boyfriend are a great match for one another.
What advice do you have for her?
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