Chip Chick
“She ended up telling me that she doesn’t think we are compatible (after 7 years?) and that she thinks we should go our own ways and co-parent. I’m devastated.”
He asked Lola to tell him more, specifically what had caused her to come to this conclusion recently.
Lola replied that she felt as if he did not know who she was and didn’t want to make an effort to know her better.
He thought that was absolutely crazy, as he knows everything there is to know about Lola, like her favorite song, color, and movie.
He knows what she loves to eat and what her body language means. He knows Lola, especially since they have been together for close to a decade.
“She said a few more things, and apparently, she’s been thinking over our relationship since that fight happened a year ago,” he said.
Lola clarified that it opened her eyes when he had a problem with her parenting. Back then, he had posted online for advice about their unique situation, and he later on showed what he wrote to Lola and what people had commented.
Lola went on to say that the incident made her stop to consider certain things about him that she had simply “swept under the rug for years.”
Lola dove into every realization she had about him and why she thought it spelled out the fact that they should no longer be together.
“I don’t even know what she means,” he said. “I think I zoned out for most of her rant because I was so blindsided and hurt by this that I was trying not to break down in tears.”
“I offered to go to couples counseling and individual counseling, but she said it was too late and that I should have done that/offered that a year ago when this all blew up. I don’t even know what to do now, and I think it’s a bit unfair for her to put all of that on me. Just because I didn’t think of therapy after a minor disagreement a year ago, I’m no longer someone she wants to marry?”
