He Teaches College Basketball, And He’s Not Sure If It’s Creepy To Ask One Of His Former Students Out On A Date
This 33-year-old man teaches college basketball, and while he has previously coached men, he only focuses on coaching women currently, as that’s more complimentary to his teaching style.
While he adores his career and finds it fulfilling, it’s not exactly a job, it’s more like a complete way of life.
Given the hours he works and the amount of traveling he has to do, it’s kind of impossible for him to date someone unless they are as heavily invested in college basketball as he is.
Not that long ago, he was out on the town one evening and ended up running into one of the girls he used to help coach.
He was never this girl’s head coach, only her assistant coach, but her dedication to basketball and her kindness were memorable.
“I take my job very seriously and clearly understand the extreme implications of starting a relationship with a student-athlete,” he explained.
“Even though I was 24 at the time and relatively young at that stage, I never even considered toeing that line. Not with anyone, her included. I try my best to be professional because I love the job and would never risk losing it.”
“Sure, I would be lying if I said that in my younger coaching days that I never found the occasional player objectively attractive. I’m only flesh and blood. But I’m not the kind of person to put myself, or anyone else for that matter, in a position where my having any type of authority over them could create a [mess].”
All that aside, even if he was the same age as these girls he’s coached in the past, he would say the majority of them were totally out of his league.
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It’s easy for him to interact with women while out on a court, but courting them is another story entirely.
He doesn’t exactly have game in his dating life, and it’s always been like that for him. But anyway, back to this girl he used to help teach, he ended up accepting a different position and stopped being her coach in her sophomore year of college.
After he went to his new job, he did not speak to this girl once, though he ran into her years later for a few seconds.
But when he saw her recently on his night out, he was taken aback by her. She’s currently 25 or 26, gorgeous, intelligent, and hilarious. Totally his type.
“Again, after all my years of rejection, I certainly know what the tell-tale signs are when a girl is not interested,” he said.
“I would…say I’m an expert on the matter. But this wasn’t like that, and I felt a genuine connection that I have only felt a few times, all with the women who actually wanted to date me. I left the conversation so excited by the prospect, which was then followed by immediate and shattering guilt due to the nature and context of our initial relationship.”
“I want to ask her out for dinner. I really do. Is that bad? Am I a horrible person? Am I a creep?”
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