Her Best Friend Keeps Having Affairs With Married Men, And It Makes Her Want To End Their Friendship
This 40-year-old woman has been friends with 41-year-old Charlotte for three decades. Back when they were in middle school, they were besties, but as they graduated and went to college, they stopped being as close.
Around five or six years ago, she reconnected with Charlotte and was surprised to find that their friendship was instant and they were closer than they had ever been.
Now, Charlotte’s more like her sister than her best friend, and they adore one another no matter what.
They also tell one another all their secrets without any kind of judgment. However, in the past two years, Charlotte began an affair with her married 42-year-old friend Jeff.
Jeff’s wife, 41-year-old Alison, has moved to a separate state along with the two children she shares with Jeff, and she never told him that she planned on doing this.
“Charlotte believes that she and Jeff are soulmates and that there is no one else in the universe but him for her,” she explained.
“He said he was going to divorce his wife, but that has not happened. I was uncomfortable with her sleeping with a married man but willing to turn a blind eye to it due to her strong feelings and Jeff’s situation. Charlotte knows I don’t approve and talks about it with me very little.”
“We have another friend, CJ [45ish male], who also has a wife and kids. I always thought he was very attractive, and she thought he was gross looking (we famously have opposite taste in men). He recently started being quite flirty with her and was planning to come to her apartment.”
Charlotte confided in her that she was thinking of sleeping with CJ, even though she believes he’s disgusting.
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That being said, she recently learned that Charlotte received a cancer diagnosis and will have to undergo a double mastectomy in the near future.
Charlotte decided that she’s going to sleep with whoever she wants beforehand, which she supports.
Charlotte sees CJ as her final chance to have fling before her surgery. CJ and Charlotte never ended up happening, though.
Charlotte’s history with married men continues from there. Charlotte previously hooked up with their 38-year-old married friend Adam over the course of several years.
Charlotte claimed Adam had separated from his wife, but then last fall, Adam said he was expecting a baby with his wife, so clearly, the separation wasn’t true.
The baby was born last November, sadly premature, and the baby has been encountering health problems since then.
“The other day, Charlotte texted me, asking if I wanted to hear a confession that she’s not telling anyone else,” she said.
“By the time I replied yes 3 hours later, she said, “This confession no longer seems scandalous.” She said that she had told Adam that things between them are off the table due to the baby, but the cancer changed her mind, so maybe she’ll [sleep with Adam], but it will be a one-time thing.”
“I was so horrified by this and the fact that she was being so glib about it. I took the next couple of days to really think about it, and I decided I could not be friends with someone who could make choices like this. The cancer complicates things, but she had been carrying on with both Jeff and Adam before the diagnosis. I’d been pulling back for a while, but this felt like the straw that broke the camel’s back.”
It took her two entire days to craft a response to Charlotte, and she ultimately said she shouldn’t have been open to hearing her confession, and she’s still processing it all.
Charlotte immediately replied with snark, stating she would no longer fill her in on personal details of her life, including things surrounding her cancer diagnosis.
She was appalled and deeply hurt, as she really went through a lot of effort to come up with a thoughtful reply to Charlotte’s confession, despite not approving of it.
She and Charlotte haven’t said a word to one another ever since, and she’s astonished that Charlotte seems to believe her reaction stemmed from the cancer, not from the part about her carrying on affairs with married men.
“I don’t really know what to do now,” she continued. “I am not interested in getting into an argument, trying to see who can hurt each other more.”
“I am also not interested in being best friends with someone who seems to have zero regard for other people’s lives.”
“Should I try to talk to her? Should I just let it go? If she does end things, I will be wracked with guilt, but I have been there for her in big ways many, many times over the years.”
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