Her Boyfriend Isn’t Ready To Propose To Her, So She’s Considering Dumping Him
Many people are scared of meeting their dream partner, falling madly in love with them, and then finding out that they don’t want to get married and start a family like they do.
One woman has been dating her boyfriend for almost three years, and although she’s crazy about him, she worries that she might have to break up with him because he doesn’t seem interested in getting married anytime soon.
She’s 27 and has been with her 25-year-old boyfriend for almost three years.
“He is the best boyfriend I’ve ever had, and this is the best and healthiest relationship I’ve ever had with anyone,” she explained.
“I haven’t had many relationships, but this is by far the best one. There are so many things I love about him, and I know that he loves me just as much, if not more.”
When she first started dating her boyfriend, she told him she was dating to marry. For years, she’s had a plan laid out for her future. She knows she’d like to get married and be married for a few years before having children. Most importantly, she’d like to have children before she’s 35 because women in her family struggle with geriatric pregnancies.
She and her boyfriend have discussed all of this several times throughout their relationship, and he’s been made well aware of her plans.
However, as they approach year three of their relationship and she gets closer to 30, she’s starting to get concerned, as her boyfriend hasn’t shown much interest in getting married anytime soon.
“Time is flying, and I feel like I’ll be 30 next week,” she said.
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“I really don’t want to be his or anyone’s ‘girlfriend’ for more than four or five years, and as we approach our third year and move towards our fourth year, I would really like to be engaged pretty soon.”
Her boyfriend keeps telling her that he’ll marry her “someday” but not “anytime soon,” making her anxious.
But he did tell her he’d like to move in with her in the next couple of years, which makes her slightly more hopeful, as she’s told him she doesn’t want to live with anyone unless they want to get married.
Still, her boyfriend keeps dancing around the subject of marriage and can’t tell her for certain that he wants to get married in the next few years. Now, she’s faced with a tough decision.
“I totally respect the fact that he may not be at a point in his life where he is ready to take the next step of engagement, and I don’t want to push him or give him an ultimatum,” she added.
“However, I do want to do what’s best for myself at the end of the day, no matter how much I love him and our relationship. I love him, and I know that our breaking up would destroy him, but at the same time, I don’t want to put my own life on hold and my health at risk in the future solely to spare his feelings.”
Part of her feels as though she should break up with her boyfriend if he doesn’t pop the question in the next year, but another part of her feels like she’d be a horrible person for doing that.
Should she consider ending things with her boyfriend if he doesn’t propose soon?
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