Her Boyfriend Keeps Insisting They Take Vacations She Can’t Afford To Go On
This 25-year-old woman and her 27-year-old boyfriend have been dating for the last three years, and they come from very different economic backgrounds.
Her boyfriend’s family earns a lot of money and they’re all in the middle class. They also travel multiple times a year since they have the money to afford this.
As for her, her family is lower-middle class, and they’re lucky if they can go on vacation once every year.
“I’m not saying by any means that I grew up struggling or that I’m not grateful for what I had growing up, I just think this slight nuance gave me and my BF a different way of seeing vacations and trips,” she explained.
“He loves traveling and sees it as a hobby, and me…it’s not that I don’t like traveling, is that that for me it is a luxury, so it’s not something that is at the top of my priorities all the time.”
She met her boyfriend when she was still in college, so she literally had no money, yet he had a job and was already saving up money.
In their first year of dating, her boyfriend bought her plane tickets as a gift, and although they had to cancel because of the pandemic, her boyfriend expected her to pay for the hotel room and for food too.
Since she was broke, she had to ask her parents to give her the money to go on this trip with her boyfriend.
“I explained to him back then that while I was thankful for his gift, it put a lot of stress on me because now I had to find a way to pay for accommodations for this trip I didn’t plan and didn’t really care to take,” she said.
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“He said he understood where I was coming from, but yet again, the next year, he ended up offering me plane tickets again.”
“I once again explained the issue, and he said he was sorry for doing that but that he wanted to travel with me. We ended up going since the tickets were nonrefundable, and my parents gave me the money as an early birthday/Christmas gift.”
In 2023, she started her job and was able to save up a bit of money. She and her boyfriend planned a trip for September, and they were away for an entire week.
She was so proud of herself for being able to afford the trip, and she didn’t feel bad about it at all.
Between September to now, her boyfriend has gone on two different vacations with his loved ones, and considering that their anniversary is coming up, her boyfriend offered to gift her plane tickets.
Last month, she lost her job, as the company she worked for filed for bankruptcy. She has a little money in the bank and could afford to go on a vacation with her boyfriend, but that’s not high on her list of things to do. She would rather wait until she finds a new job to go somewhere.
“Yet again, my boyfriend has been talking about hotel costs and that the cheapest he could find was like 300$,” she continued.
“And I don’t want to be rude and tell him he’s being inconsiderate but I also don’t want to go and spend that much money.”
“I know we need to make exceptions for your partners and that if he loves to travel, I should make an effort, and it’s not that I want to be ungrateful, but also I don’t think I’m being that unreasonable.”
What do you think she should do?
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