Her Boyfriend’s Schedule With His Kids Is So Chaotic That She Wants To Dump Him, Even Though She’s Pregnant
This 37-year-old woman has been with her 36-year-old boyfriend for a bit more than one year so far.
They are currently pregnant with their first child together, and her boyfriend has two children from a relationship that ended 7 years ago; his kids are 8 and 10.
Back when she began seeing her boyfriend, he informed her that his children have never met anyone he has ever dated.
She said that was fine for the moment but that she will expect to meet them as things progress. Four months into dating her boyfriend and discussing the topic of meeting his kids multiple times, she finally got to meet them.
They all attended a fair together, and her boyfriend told his kids she was someone he used to work with, which was a total lie.
“We drop the kids off at mom’s place, and mom finds out that I had met them and called him immediately, yelling at him and telling him that he can [sleep with] whoever he wants but will not see the kids again if he brings them around me again,” she explained.
“All of this was said in front of the kids. Since meeting them that one time, I have not been able to be around him when he is with the kids.”
“He has since tried to call her, text her, talk to her in person, but she refuses and is only willing to communicate to him through his sister or through her eldest daughter (18).”
Adding to how ugly that situation with her boyfriend’s kids is, her boyfriend’s schedule with them is absolutely chaotic.
Dasha Petrenko – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Every single Monday, her boyfriend has to send a text to his ex’s daughter to learn what his ex’s schedule will be for that week.
Her boyfriend’s ex works as a nurse, and when she’s at work, her boyfriend gets the kids in the morning and drops them off at about 8:30 in the evening when his ex gets back.
“We can’t really make plans in advance because we don’t know what her schedule for the week is like, and sometimes when we do, we have to cancel because she switched her schedule and told him last minute,” she said.
“We are now expecting a child of our own, and I’m really concerned about this situation. Some weeks, [he] picks them up 3-4 times during the week, coming home around 9 pm each night and also has them on the weekends, and on those weekends, I don’t see him at all.”
She does live with her boyfriend, so every weeknight, her boyfriend goes to the park or his mom and dad’s home with his kids, so they’re not around her.
For the weekends, her boyfriend will sleep over at his parent’s home with his children. While this arrangement used to not bother her so much, ever since she discovered that she was pregnant, she’s getting upset.
She doesn’t want her boyfriend to be away from their home so much when the baby arrives. Most weekends, she won’t even see her boyfriend at all since he’s with his kids so much.
“He also drives there early in the morning on some days to take them to their school activities or leaves work early to pick them up from their bus stop,” she continued.
“When the baby comes, I’m afraid he will barely be present, but I’m conflicted because he has a responsibility to his kids. I’m not sure what to do.”
“I feel like I’m alone and will be raising this child alone anyway, but I’m in a relationship. Should I stay in this relationship or leave? Am I wrong for thinking he is there too much and won’t be here with our baby?”
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