Her Long-Distance Boyfriend Has Been Meeting Up With His Female Friend Despite Claiming To Be Really Busy, So She’s Getting Worried And Doesn’t Want Them Hanging Out Anymore
This 19-year-old woman and her boyfriend, who is 21, have been dating for around four months. But, they are currently in a long-distance relationship since her boyfriend lives over an hour away.
So, while things have been mostly good between them, she has started to become jealous of the fact that her boyfriend regularly hangs out with a female friend in his hometown.
For some context, her boyfriend has known his female friend for two or three years. He’s also been very busy lately, which is why she hasn’t been able to see him for the last two or three weeks.
But, when she was on the phone with her boyfriend a few weeks ago, she realized that he’d been making time for his female friend and not her.
It all began while they were talking, and her boyfriend wouldn’t stop rambling on about his female friend for 15 minutes straight.
“Then, out of nowhere, he said, ‘You know she’s just a friend,’ without me insinuating anything else. I was put off by it, but I didn’t say anything,” she recalled.
At that point, she didn’t want to make a big deal, and since her boyfriend had just finished meeting a work deadline recently, she traveled to see him– because, obviously, she missed him over the few weeks they were apart.
So, she actually drove over an hour to her boyfriend’s place, but once she arrived, he was forced to help his father out with something at the last minute.
Now, she understood that family had to come first in that situation. Still, ever since the phone call and the visit, things have felt off.
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To her, it seems as though her boyfriend is not taking any initiative to plan dates or make her a priority– claiming to be busy. Yet, just the other day, he had time to go out with his female friend again.
She’s tried bringing up his friend more recently, too, but he always just claims, “She’s like one of the boys for me, like a sister.”
Despite that, the fact that her boyfriend has met up with his female friend twice since his deadline passed– and not her– rubs her the wrong way.
“Even when he was busy, his female friend went up to his place, and they spent the new year together,” she added.
To be clear, her boyfriend wasn’t alone with his friend over the holiday. Instead, his sister was also present.
She also admitted that she feels bad about getting so jealous of her boyfriend’s friendship. On the one hand, she trusts that he loves her, and she realizes that they’ve been friends for a long time now.
“And I think I’m just projecting because my ex cheated on me with his ‘best friend,'” she vented.
Nonetheless, she genuinely doesn’t feel good about her boyfriend’s friendship, and she really doesn’t want him hanging out with his female friend anymore. But she still can’t help but wonder if not being okay with it is unreasonable.
Do you think people of the opposite gender can be platonic friends? Even so, can you understand why her boyfriend’s willingness to hang out with his female friend and not her has made her worried? How do you suggest she handles this situation?
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