How To Overcome Your Jealousy And Put On A Smile When You’re Single Yet All Your Friends Are Getting Married
It’s hard enough trying to handle feelings of jealousy when one of your best friends enters a great relationship while you’re still single.
It’s even harder having to handle your jealousy when they get engaged, and suddenly, several people from your social circle get engaged, too.
If you’re a single girly, desperately awaiting the day you’re swept off your feet by the person you will one day walk down the aisle for and get nervous about not being too jealous when your friends get engaged, don’t stress.
Here are some tips for overcoming jealousy and remaining grounded when your friends start getting engaged.
Remember that you’re not a bad friend for feeling jealous
I know that anytime I’m jealous of a friend’s relationship or life in general, I begin to feel guilty that I’m a bad friend for feeling that way, as jealousy has such negative connotations.
But here’s the thing – if you’re single and watching your friends get happily engaged, feeling jealous is normal.
Just because you’re jealous of your friend’s relationship doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. However, you have to remember to cope with and brush aside those feelings of jealousy when it’s time to show your friend some real support. Acknowledge your feelings, and get ready to move on.
Stop comparing yourself to your engaged friends
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I think something that fuels jealousy like nothing else is comparison. When you compare your single life to your friend’s engaged life, you’ll likely start to feel upset and then more jealous or even angry. Listen to me when I tell you you must stop comparing yourself to your friends.
As corny as it sounds, everyone is on their own journey. Just because your friend got engaged before you or found their “happily ever after” earlier than expected doesn’t mean it’s in the cards for you.
Look on the bright side
To curb those feelings of jealousy, it’s a good idea to remind yourself of all the good things you have going for you. You’ll continue to have much more freedom than your married friends and time to improve yourself, step up your career and achieve your personal goals.
Just because your friends may be taking the next step in their journeys doesn’t mean yours suddenly stops.
Remember what you love about your friends
When we’re jealous of our friends, whether because they got engaged or got a cool new job, we tend to cloud our heads with negative thoughts about them and pay less attention to what we love about them.
The next time you meet up with your engaged friends, clear your mind and remember why you love them and why you love spending time with them. Look beyond all that wedding cheer and focus on why you choose to have them in your life.
Be kind to yourself
If your friend’s engagement really is messing with you to the point where you’ve started to feel a little depressed or delusional, give yourself some time to rest and relax. Be gentle with yourself and try your best to focus on the other positive aspects of your life.
Practice some self-care and let your friends know when you need a break from all the wedding hoopla. You’re only human; it’s okay! Wedding season can be rough for single folk, especially when it’s your best friends tying the knot. But hang in there and remember that everyone moves at a different pace, and you have time.
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