She And Her Husband Opened Up Their Marriage, But Now She’s Jealous Of His Girlfriend, Since He’s Celebrating Her Birthday Instead Of Their Wedding Anniversary
One year ago, this 36-year-old woman and her 35-year-old husband, Marcus, made the decision to open up their marriage.
She says this was something they both wanted, as the “spark” between her and Marcus has pretty much vanished.
They also have spoken about opening up their marriage before, so they thought it was time to finally take the plunge.
They came up with some rules for the arrangement, and then she downloaded a few dating apps. She reached out to some guys who had shown interest to her over the years and went from there.
She was only interested in one-night stands and things like that, but she went into it with the mindset that if it developed into something more cool, but she didn’t care if that never materialized.
Marcus, on the other hand, only wanted to find a somewhat serious relationship with one woman instead of her approach to dating.
He struggled to get going, so she told him to download a dating app, and he took her advice. After Marcus got on a dating app, he ended up meeting Charmi, his current girlfriend.
“Charmi is in her second year of law school, graduated summa cum laude with a BA for her undergrad, and has fairly well-off parents,” she explained.
“I know all of this because my husband gushed about it to me after he already went on a few dates and was hitting it off with her.”
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“I was happy for him; their relationship only really annoying me when their plans coincided with mine, and I had to cancel my own plans last minute to watch our kids.”
But then, Marcus would spend hours talking to Charmi on the phone while sitting in bed next to her.
Marcus would only excuse himself to talk to Charmi in the living room if she pointed out that he was preventing her from going to sleep.
So that was the beginning of her being irritated by Marcus’s new love interest, but things got worse from there.
“I’ve seen plenty of receipts for flowers, chocolates, new purses, jewelry, and fancy dinners all for Charmi when we’ve hardly done anything truly special in the past year,” she said.
“Part of our agreement was that we wouldn’t totally give up on our marriage and have things like date nights.”
She attempted to discuss this with Marcus, but he would say he was too busy with his job, or he would tell her she never makes an effort to do anything special, or he would walk away from her completely when she tried to talk to him.
Marcus avoided having these important conversations about what he was doing to hold up his end of the bargain regarding saving their marriage in some way.
Yesterday, she brought up to Marcus that their wedding anniversary is on the 31st of January, thinking he would want to celebrate at home with her and their children, which is how they spent the day last year.
Unfortunately, Marcus said he missed Charmi’s birthday because of being so wrapped in work, which was last week, so he was going to spend their wedding anniversary on a date with Charmi for her birthday.
“I yelled at him when he said that, and that obviously, our wedding anniversary is more important than Charmi’s birthday,” she continued.
“Marcus argued with me, saying we didn’t do anything last year, so why should it matter if he spends his time somewhere else? I said that at least he spent his time at home rather than with someone else.”
“We argued some more before Marcus just walked away from me and went into the guest bedroom. He didn’t come out unless to was to interact with the kids and barely spoke to me if I was around.”
This morning, Marcus left for work after putting the kids on the bus, but he still hasn’t said anything to her.
She has texted and called him, but he still is ignoring her. He’ll be home from work in a bit, but she’s done.
“Our relationship has gone seriously downhill since he started dating her, but then again, she also makes him so happy from what I’ve seen,” she added.
“It’s also not like he’s neglecting our kids, which I wouldn’t ever allow.”
What advice do you have for her?
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