She Didn’t Pay For Her Daughter To Go On A School Trip Since She Told Her At The Last Minute
This 37-year-old woman has a 15-year-old daughter named Mia. Unfortunately, Mia struggles to succeed in school.
Mia isn’t responsible or organized and doesn’t remember important deadlines. Despite living only a 10-minute walk away, she is usually late for class.
She also procrastinates on homework and constantly asks her teachers if she can have extensions to finish her assignments.
Sometimes, she still can’t complete homework with extended due dates and has to ask for yet another extension.
Understandably, this bothers her and her husband because they would love to see Mia become a more conscientious student and finish her homework in a timely manner.
Since Mia has always had so many problems with school, she and her husband had her tested for ADHD, but it turned out that she didn’t have it. Mia does, however, have dyslexia, so this could contribute to some of her academic issues.
After the test ruled out ADHD, she did some online research and discovered that teenage girls go under the radar and aren’t always diagnosed as often as boys. So, they got a second opinion, but it was once again ruled that Mia didn’t have ADHD.
Luckily, she has an academic advisor to assist her and teach her techniques for dealing with dyslexia.
She and her husband have ideas in place at their house that they utilize to keep Mia on task with homework and other important things she needs to get done.
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“She has a tendency to remind me to pay for school-related things like lunch money just before I’m going to bed or that she needs to take something to school, and she asks if we can run to the store and quickly get it,” she said.
A month ago, she had to frantically search the grocery store for ingredients Mia needed for a home economics class.
Mia didn’t tell her she needed to go to the store until 10:30 p.m. when Mia looked in the fridge and informed her that they didn’t have the ingredients she needed.
As Mia was listing what she needed off of a school email, she took a look and saw that the email was from a week ago.
This irritated her because they could have purchased these ingredients days ago when they did their regular grocery shopping.
She let Mia know that from now on, she needed to tell her about things like this the day she learned about it or the following day at the very latest, and she wouldn’t be helping her with anything for school anymore if she procrastinated on telling her about it.
“My husband has stopped helping Mia with her last-minute requests and calls me a pushover for helping her out, but when she asked today to put down the deposit for a school trip, I put my foot down,” she explained.
Since the beginning of the school year, Mia has been aware of a history class trip to Germany happening later in the year.
Two months ago, Mia’s school emailed the students with a reminder of the upcoming deadline for the deposit required (roughly $150) to hold their spots on the trip.
“Mia asked me today to pay, as the deadline is midnight, or she may not be able to go. I reminded her what I said last time about deadlines and organization, and as she chose to tell me last-minute, I will not be paying for her deposit,” she shared.
Furious, Mia complained that this wasn’t fair because all of her friends in the class were going on the trip.
Because Mia works a job part-time, she suggested that Mia use her own money from her savings account to pay the deposit.
Mia had plenty of money to afford the initial deposit, but she protested this idea, pointing out that she was saving that money for a new gaming console.
In response, she said to Mia that she would have to decide whether she’d rather use her savings to pay for the trip deposit or a gaming console, and Mia told her she was a jerk and was angry with her.
While her husband sided with her, their youngest child thought she was being cruel. Upon reflection, she wasn’t sure if she made the right decision to refuse to pay the deposit for Mia’s school trip.
What would you have done if you had been in her shoes?
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