She Keeps Ending Up On Dates With Guys Who Throw Their Money Around, And She Doesn’t Find This Attractive
This 37-year-old woman admits that she has felt attracted to men who feel the need to throw their money around as a way of getting women to like them.
Sadly in her dating life, she encounters guys like this a ton of the time. She thinks it may have something to do with her living in Los Angeles.
Her location is all about money and materialism, and she knows this is influencing the guys she’s finding.
“But even the average Joe men seem to have this mindset that in order to catch a girl, he has to show off his money (which he could be exaggerating) and throw out incentives like expensive purses and fancy dinners,” she explained.
“It’s not to say I don’t like the finer things in life. However, I don’t really live my life by it. I like going out to a nice dinner every once in a while, but I’ve never really been obsessed with designer things like bags, wallets, watches, etc. I know a lot of people are, though.”
The only luxury shopping she’s really indulged in was purchasing two lovely little handbags from a designer outlet.
If she does find something she wants to buy, she pays for it with her own money, though nothing that expensive or fancy ever catches her eye.
She characterizes herself as earthy and into nature. She dreams of being able to afford to purchase a tiny home for herself in the future; that’s how not into materialism she is.
“A lot of people tell me I’m really naturally beautiful,” she said. “I’ve never had any work done on myself, but I guess because of the way I look (not dress) that men assume, or maybe they assume this with all women, that I and every other woman want to be spoiled with money and material objects.”
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“I know there’s a lot of women who do, and a lot of women I’ve talked to think I’m crazy because I don’t want to date a rich man. And no, I’m not trying to be a “pickme girl.” I’ve just never genuinely been attracted to those types of men.”
“Mainly because I feel most of them use their money as a way to attract women instead of getting to know the woman sincerely. And a lot of times, they aren’t looking for anything meaningful. They just want to hook up, which is not what I’m looking for.”
She wants to find a man who’s into simplicity and sustainability. Someone who adores traveling and spending time in the great outdoors.
A guy who really wants to get to know her and find their commonalities. She also would love to find a man who can chat with her for hours on end about any subject at all.
She can’t find a guy like this in LA, as she keeps running into guys who are the absolute opposite of her dream man.
She doesn’t think it’s cool when they brag about how much money they have or the presents they buy for their loved ones.
“Like this is someone who obviously isn’t trying to get to know me and probably only wants one thing or [at] the very least is looking for a Barbie type trophy looking girl.”
What advice do you have for her?
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