She No Longer Wants Her Husband In The Delivery Room, Since He Isn’t Attracted To Her
In a couple of weeks, this 29-year-old woman and her 30-year-old husband will be welcoming their first child into the world.
She got pregnant quite unexpectedly, but they are both elated to be parents and are looking forward to this new journey together.
She and her husband have talked about who should be in the delivery room with her, and they agreed that he would be there to support her through the birth.
“Some context – He has always been very sweet and caring,” she explained. “It took a little bit of communication and adapting to each other’s needs, but he’s now very, very supportive and always makes sure my needs are met.”
“I was more than happy with him being in the delivery room with me during what I’d consider one of the scariest times of my life, and [I] wanted him to experience seeing his daughter take her first breath. This was before our conversation last night.”
Lately, she and her husband have not been doing well in the physical department, though that never was a problem for them back when they first got together.
She always believed they were compatible in the bedroom, but over the course of the last year, things have changed in a bad way.
Initially, her husband ascribed this to him being stressed out, but then he insisted money was the root of the problem.
Following that, her husband reasoned that his health was the issue, and she took his word for everything. She had no reason not to believe what he was saying.
Iona – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“I recommended things we could do to improve that or ways I could help lighten his load, but he assured me he’d work on it himself,” she said.
“It never got better – in fact, it kept declining. We had another talk last night about this as I told him I was starting to feel like we were friends more than lovers and that’s when he confessed – he was no longer attracted to me.”
“It had to do partly with [my] gaining a bit of weight during the pregnancy but mostly due to my lifestyle changes. When we first started dating, I had a lot more free time to take care of my body and weight. I was 5’4” and 115 lbs. Curvy in all the right places and would get constant attention from men when I was single.”
Not long into dating, she and her husband moved in together, and that’s when her priorities truly shifted. She had to work 9-5 full-time and often on weekends. She then picked up another side job and also made sure to do nearly all of the cleaning and cooking at home.
There was no longer any time for her to spend on herself, and she certainly wasn’t free to go to the gym like she used to. She gained 10 pounds in the years since she began dating her husband, and she put on 30 pounds total with her current pregnancy.
She knows she can drop the majority of the weight she gained after she has her baby, so that doesn’t worry her. What is concerning to her is that her husband no longer finds her attractive.
“Through all the tears last night during our conversation, I told him I would work on prioritizing my health and the gym again and would make time to take care of my appearance so he was happy,” she continued.
“However, when I mentioned that I didn’t want his view of me to change even more, so I think it’s best if he wasn’t in the room with me as I gave birth, he was extremely upset and disappointed.”
“I told him giving birth wasn’t a spectator sport, and I wanted him there initially because I felt supported by him and comfortable with him seeing me at my most vulnerable – crying, screaming…Now that I know he’s no longer attracted to me, I’m willing to work on that, but I don’t think him seeing me in that way would help our [physical] relationship at all.”
She’s left wondering if she should actually allow her husband in the delivery room, even though she’s scared it will make him even less attracted to her than he already is. What do you think?
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