She Screamed At Her Husband To Take His Children And Get Out Because She Couldn’t Deal With His Kids Messing With Her Baby Anymore
This woman’s husband has two children from his previous marriage. His son, Abel, is 12, and his daughter, Destiny, is 13. She thinks they’re both wonderful kids and absolutely adores them. However, she was diagnosed with postpartum depression three months ago, a week after she gave birth to her daughter.
Her husband has custody of Abel and Destiny every other week, and due to the decision by a court order, they are supposed to be homeschooled as part of the custody agreement.
His ex-wife is a devout Catholic, and a judge allowed for an order that required a Catholic teacher, a nun, to come over to their house five days a week, six hours per day, for Abel and Destiny’s classes. The nun teaches in their den, and their house is large enough that she can’t hear the teacher or Abel and Destiny.
Unfortunately, her husband’s children don’t give her space when they’re at the house, which has, understandably, caused her stress and frustration.
“They want to be near the baby at every waking minute that they can be. If I’m holding the baby, they are holding onto the back of my shirt and talking to the baby while I’m holding her. If I am sitting on the couch with her, they are sitting on the floor in front of me. They literally fight over who gets to hold the baby when I go to the bathroom (pushing each other),” she said.
Sometimes, she’ll tell Abel and Destiny that neither of them is going to hold their half-sister, and she puts her daughter in her swing. Whenever she does this, Abel and Destiny immediately shove each other in their race to get to the swing first so they can talk to her daughter. They tussle and argue over giving her baby attention several times a day.
Her stepchildren are so eager to see the baby that they grab onto her clothes if she’s holding her daughter. Since they aren’t giving her space, she isn’t able to move around, and she almost steps on them in her attempts to get away. The shoving and arguing between Abel and Destiny ensue right next to her because they both are obsessed with being near their half-sister.
When she attempts to put her daughter down for a nap, her stepchildren begin to whine, assuring her that her daughter doesn’t have to take a nap.
“I have sat down with all of them (my husband included) and told them they need to back off and given explanations on why. I’ve even tried putting together a schedule for the kids, and nothing works. I’ve cried to my husband about it and told him I was so touched out that I want to jump ship and begged him to get his kids in line,” she explained.
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Every time she vents to her husband, he gives her a hug, apologizes, and tells her that his children are only acting that way because they love their half-sister, and he assumes that as they adjust to the huge change in their family, they’ll eventually calm down. But nothing has ever improved.
A few days ago, she couldn’t handle their behavior any longer. On this particular day, Abel and Destiny’s teacher, Sister Kathy, had a family emergency, so she left their house early. Unfortunately, her daughter was ill with a cold and struggled to breathe. In order to help with her daughter’s symptoms, she has to use a bulb syringe and give her steam baths.
At one point, she was lying in bed after getting her daughter to finally fall asleep. Destiny walked into the room and laid right on her legs, which caused the baby to wake up. Noticing that the baby was awake, Destiny asked over and over if she could hold her, and she refused to allow it every time, explaining repeatedly that her daughter was ill and needed to rest.
“My daughter started struggling to breathe again, and I could hear the snot rattling, so I told Destiny to please move so I could grab the bulb syringe from the bassinet. She didn’t move. She didn’t acknowledge me. Just kept trying to talk to the baby. I told her firmly, ‘Get out of my way.’ She didn’t acknowledge me. So, I screamed at her, ‘Get out of my way!'” she shared.
She’d yelled so loudly that her throat was sore afterward. In response, Destiny stood up and raced out of the room. At last, she was finally able to get the bulb syringe and attend to her daughter, and she was so irritated with the situation that she was in tears.
Since she’d been so loud, her husband and Abel came to see what the commotion was all about. When she looked up, her husband, Destiny, and Abel were all standing outside the door, staring at her. Destiny was sobbing and holding onto her husband’s arm.
A few moments later, her husband advised his children to allow them some privacy to talk. When they went to another room, he scolded her for yelling at Destiny, telling her she’d gone too far. He continued, telling her it was obvious that she needed more intensive therapy. In a calm manner, she said that he, Abel, and Destiny needed to pack their bags and leave her home, and she wanted them to stay away from her for a bit.
She let her husband know that she needed time and space away from everyone, and she added that she was debating on filing for divorce. Her husband was furious with this, shaming her for “breaking vows” due to his children’s joy about their new half-sister, and he said that after their baby was born, it became clear what kind of person she truly was. Despite her husband’s anger, she doesn’t think she did anything wrong.
What advice would you give her?
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