She Threatened To Divorce Her Husband Unless He Goes Back To Therapy Because He Never Stops Eating And Blames The Missing Food On Their Kids
This woman and her husband, Chris, have been married for seven years. They both have children from previous relationships and a child together. In total, they have four children in their blended family.
About five or six years ago, she grew concerned about her husband’s relationship with food. She asked him to go to therapy because she was worried that he was struggling with binge eating. Within about half a year, her husband gained roughly 90 pounds.
She acknowledged that he has always been larger-bodied (he weighed about 220 pounds prior to his eating disorder, and he didn’t have any muscle).
When she expressed her concern for his health, he weighed almost 300 pounds. Before she asked him to go to therapy, she brought up the subject of his eating habits when she started to notice them, but he didn’t want to talk about it.
“Within a year and a half, he was back to normal and in therapy,” she said.
Once per month, their family does a huge grocery haul, only buying a few things they realize they need throughout the rest of the month. Last week, she did some grocery shopping and spent at least $200 on food.
“I bought finger foods and snacks for the kids (we have a separate food pantry for kids’ snacks). I really thought my kids were sneaking snacks,” she said.
Three days after she went to the grocery store, the snacks were completely cleaned out. The entire pantry of snacks for her children was empty, and there had been a significant amount of food there previously.
When she confronted her children, they said they hadn’t eaten any of the snacks from the pantry. All they’d eaten were some of the homemade fruit roll-ups that she had in the fridge.
Kristen – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual child
Her children repeatedly assured her that they hadn’t eaten anything from the pantry within the last three days.
“I asked my husband, and he said, ‘The kids must have eaten them,’ and that was it. At this point, I feel like I’m going mental and start questioning myself. Like, did I really buy as much as I thought, or am I going through a mental break?” she explained.
Four days ago, she walked into her husband’s home office and discovered many food wrappers. He was at work then, so she didn’t ask him about the wrappers. When he arrived home at 9 p.m., she was asleep.
That night, she baked a cake, and she and her children had one slice each. There was still about three-fourths of the cake left when she went to bed.
However, when she and the kids woke up, she saw that her husband had eaten the rest of the cake.
“I confronted my husband, and he was like, ‘I don’t see why you’re making a big deal out of this. Flipping out because I’m hungry?’ So, I told him no, I’m flipping out because he never stops eating, is costing me a fortune, and lies and says it’s the kids when clearly, it’s him. Now, he’s trying to say he never blamed the kids,” she shared.
During the argument, she told her husband that if he didn’t start going to therapy again to get his binge eating under control, she would file for divorce.
In response, he told her that she was “pathetic,” and he couldn’t help that he binges. He didn’t think it was fair for her to threaten divorce over his eating disorder.
She can’t help but feel angered by his reluctance to be honest and take accountability.
What advice would you give her?
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