She Thinks Her Husband’s Female Friend Is Stalking Them And Trying To Weasel Her Way Into Their Lives, But Her Husband Believes She’s Just “Seeing Things”
This 27-year-old woman is married to her husband, 31, whom she’s known since they were both young children, and their parents were close friends.
They’ve been married for two years. He has a friend named Mira, who is 31. Her husband and Mira met during college and were in the same group of friends.
After graduation, many of the friend group found careers in the same town (the town that she and her husband currently live in).
Several years ago, she coincidentally moved to the same city her now-husband was living in, and she needed help apartment-hunting, so his mother asked him to help since he was familiar with the city.
Less than a month after she moved into her apartment, he confessed that he’d always had feelings for her, and they began their relationship.
“When he introduced me to his friends, everyone was cordial, but Mira stood out. She was very beautiful and charming to talk to,” she said.
“She was very friendly with me when my husband was with me, but as soon as he left, she just acted like I was invisible. She also seemed to be following him around as he jumped from one conversation to the next.”
Later, she questioned her husband about whether he and Mira were ever in a relationship, and he told her they never dated.
He continued, explaining that over the years, Mira had mentioned several times that she thought they should date, but he always rejected her.
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Her husband said he was never romantically interested in Mira because he always thought she was irritating and boisterous.
She knew that her husband had dated a few other women before her. Throughout the time she’s known Mira, she has dated a few men, but none of the relationships lasted very long.
So far, her marriage to her husband has been wonderful, but for the last several months, Mira’s behavior has made her incredibly uncomfortable.
Last year, Mira was laid off, and she got in touch with her husband to ask for a referral for a job opening at the company he worked for.
Mira was offered the job, and she accepted the position, so she sees her husband all the time during the workweek.
Mira and her husband eat lunch together every day, and on occasion, Mira brings in the food she cooks at home, making sure to bring enough so that her husband can have some.
While she’s done her best to accept that her husband is spending so much time with Mira, she can’t help but feel annoyed by it.
Amid the pandemic, she and her husband gained some weight, so they got gym memberships last year.
Her husband started working with a personal trainer, and she wanted to stick to yoga and cardio workouts.
“It’s crazy how his body has transformed in the last year lifting weights. Mira noticed this and asked him about his trainer. She joined our gym, took just three sessions with the personal trainer, and is now continuing with our gym because she likes it here. It is almost a 30-minute drive from her place. She also comes at the exact time as we go,” she explained.
At the gym, she does her own workouts in a different area, and her husband mostly sticks to the weights.
Coincidentally, Mira also does workouts near her husband while wearing tiny outfits, leaving very little to the imagination.
After they’re all done with their workouts, the three of them talk for a bit, and Mira seems to get a kick out of giving her tips on how to lose weight while her husband is standing right there. Understandably, these comments get under her skin.
In her view, Mira crossed the line more dramatically than ever before when she began showing up at the same restaurants they were at.
Three times over the last two months, they’ve gone out to dinner at locally owned restaurants in town, waiting for their table to be ready, only to see Mira walk in with a friend.
Once she spotted them, she’d approach them and say they should request a larger table so that they could all eat together.
In the first two instances that this happened, she and her husband agreed to let Mira and her friend join them.
But the third time Mira tried to crash their dinner date, her husband let her know that they were trying to have a romantic night out, just the two of them, and that she should take the hint.
Also, Mira always leaves comments on her husband’s Instagram account. When she looked through her husband’s account, she realized that Mira had commented on every single one of his posts.
Plus, Mira constantly sends her messages asking if she could relay the message to her husband that she needs his help with something. Not a day goes by that she doesn’t hear a story about or hear directly from Mira.
Whenever she discusses the issue with her husband, he says he was friends with Mira for eight years before they started dating, reminding her that he was never in a relationship with Mira.
In his opinion, it should be clear that he’s never had feelings for Mira because otherwise, he would have taken her up on her suggestion years ago that they date.
“Mira is stalking us, but my husband feels I am just seeing things. He also tells me, ‘You have a wedding ring on your finger for a reason,’ and I should not be concerned about how other people act around him. To his credit, I have never seen him initiate a conversation with Mira. I trust him 100% and I don’t feel he is the issue,” she shared.
She’s requested that he stop communicating with Mira, but he’s rejected this, telling her that he won’t quit his job or stop going to the gym that he enjoys going to in order to escape Mira.
He told her that he would do everything he could so that he wouldn’t run into Mira as often, but he wouldn’t stop communicating with her without telling her why.
Now, she isn’t sure if she’s being overdramatic or envious for no reason or if Mira’s behavior is going too far.
Sometimes, she feels like she’s losing her mind and as if she’s making too big of a deal out of it.
She doesn’t want to become a “controlling wife” or dictate who her husband can hang out with. However, she feels deep down like Mira is stalking them.
What would you do if you were in her shoes?
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