She Wouldn’t Invite Her Brother-In-Law’s Girlfriend To Her Wedding Rehearsal Months Ago Because No Plus-Ones Were Allowed, And She’s Still Getting Iced Out To This Day
Several months ago, this 27-year-old woman and her husband, 28, married. Their ceremony was held in a gorgeous, meticulously maintained nature center.
Their wedding venue of choice had a lot of stringent policies and rules to keep events peaceful, with the intention of all guests in attendance respecting the nature center.
On their wedding day, the venue had other events all day, so she and her husband wanted to make sure they made things as convenient for the venue as possible.
So, they planned a rehearsal two days before the ceremony, and everyone in the wedding party needed to attend it.
While they needed their parents and the officiant to be there, no plus ones were allowed to be at the rehearsal.
The following day, they planned a rehearsal dinner in which their family, some of their close friends, and plus ones were all invited to attend.
Then, they would celebrate with even more guests for their wedding ceremony and reception the day after that.
In total, their wedding cost $40,000 including the rehearsal dinner and venues, and her amazing parents paid for everything, for which they were incredibly grateful.
“When we told my husband’s brother about the rule, he immediately got very defensive, saying that it’s not okay that his girlfriend wasn’t invited to the rehearsal (remember, this was about a one-hour event and not fun at all–just a run-through and logistics),” she said.
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Her brother-in-law, who was her husband’s best man, and his girlfriend were an hour apart, and according to him, this wedding was a chance for the two of them to spend quality time together since the distance made it difficult for them to see each other regularly.
Spending time with his girlfriend was his main focus for the wedding weekend, and he believed that they were taking away some of the time they could have cherished with one another.
A couple of hours after this conversation, her husband’s parents called them to complain, claiming that if they didn’t allow her brother-in-law’s girlfriend to come to the rehearsal, they would risk causing a rift within the entire family.
“They and his brother said it was unfair because my sister’s fiancé got to come to the walkthrough. My sister is my maid of honor, and her fiancé is also in my husband’s wedding party,” she explained.
“So ‘fair’ didn’t really apply there. We told them that the venue was strict, and we wanted to keep them happy since it was so expensive, and we couldn’t risk breaking the rules.”
After this conversation, her brother-in-law called the venue himself and asked if he would be allowed to bring his girlfriend to the wedding rehearsal walkthrough.
Understandably, this question baffled the venue employee on the other end of the call, and he was informed that the couple getting married would be the ones to make that decision.
“Then, his whole family called us liars for trying to blame the rule on the venue. We told them over and over we did not intend to be dishonest and just wanted to keep the venue happy,” she shared.
Unfortunately, this caused a massive argument between her husband and his brother, and her husband told him he would no longer be the best man at the wedding.
Luckily, the following day, they talked things out, and her husband allowed his brother to be the best man, so there wasn’t tension between the two of them on the day of the wedding.
In the end, she and her husband stuck with their rule that no plus ones were allowed to come to the rehearsal walkthrough.
Sadly, her brother-in-law’s girlfriend didn’t talk to them during their wedding day, and she even saw her rolling her eyes at them.
During the reception, her husband’s brother gave a sentimental, wonderful speech, and he teared up during it, so she and her husband assumed that everything would be water under the bridge.
However, her brother-in-law and his girlfriend haven’t spoken to them in the several months since the wedding, even though she and her husband have tried contacting them.
The only time they heard from them was when they were part of a group FaceTime call on Christmas. His girlfriend unfollowed her and her husband on all social media.
From her perspective, their rule wasn’t outrageous, especially considering the fact that the rule applied to everyone’s plus ones.
They didn’t anticipate that sticking to this rule would cause her brother-in-law and his girlfriend to refuse to speak to them for months after the wedding.
Plus, she and her husband told everyone that they were sorry for any inconvenience or possible misunderstandings about their rule of not allowing plus ones.
What advice would you give her?
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