She’s Not Allowing Her Mother-In-Law At Her Wedding Because Her Mother-In-Law Can’t Accept That Her Adopted Daughter Is Going To Be The Flower Girl
It’s hard to imagine how difficult it must be when your older, more traditional relatives don’t accept your adopted child as a member of the family.
One woman recently told her future mother-in-law should skip her upcoming wedding since she can’t accept that her recently adopted daughter is going to be the flower girl.
She’s 25 and preparing to marry her 25-year-old fiancé, her high school sweetheart. They’ve been together for seven years.
While she loves her fiancé and gets along with most of his family, she struggles with his mom, especially after recently becoming a parent. Her best friend and her partner recently passed away, and since they had no living parents, she was chosen to take care of their five-year-old daughter, her goddaughter, Ellie.
Although she has tried as hard as possible to make Ellie feel like a part of her family, her future mother-in-law has not accepted her and keeps nagging her for not giving her a grandson.
Despite her mother-in-law’s adversity, she and her fiancé want to include Ellie in their upcoming wedding.
“We have begun getting bridesmaid dresses [and] we both decided to make our new-found daughter a flower girl,” she said.
“She loves flowers, and this seemed like the perfect opportunity to help her feel like we [accept] her as our own.”
Since announcing Ellie would be her flower girl, her mother-in-law has treated her horribly. At a recent family gathering, after alienating Ellie, her mother-in-law told her she couldn’t understand why she would make a child who wasn’t a blood relative her flower girl instead of someone who is.
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Her mother-in-law’s comments upset her, and when she asked her to tone down her attitude, she didn’t stop.
She eventually snapped at her mother-in-law, telling her Ellie is her child and will always be important before leaving the gathering with Ellie in tow.
Later, her fiancé came home confused as to what had happened, as her mother-in-law claimed she had been verbally abusive toward her, which was far from the truth.
As tensions grew between her and her mother-in-law, she and Ellie had been alienated by her fiancé’s family, and she eventually realized she’d have to set her anger aside so Ellie could get to know them.
A few days later, she decided to put the past behind them and took Ellie to another gathering at her mother-in-law’s house.
“[Everything] was fine until I heard a horrid scream,” she recalled.
“I [rushed] up the stairs, and I saw Ellie crying while my fiancé’s mom was screaming at her while holding [a] teddy which her mother made.”
She was appalled to see her mother-in-law had taken Ellie’s precious stuffed animal away and was still berating her.
She snapped again, and her mother-in-law snapped back, reiterating how she couldn’t stand the fact that she was choosing someone unrelated to her by blood to be in her wedding.
Her husband took the teddy back and ushered Ellie out of the room as she told her mother-in-law that if she didn’t like the idea of Ellie being in the wedding, she should skip the ceremony. Her mother-in-law began to cry as they left.
Since then, her fiancé’s family has been contacting her to get her to apologize for what she said to her mother-in-law because they thought she was too harsh.
“I find that bogus,” she added.
Should she apologize, or is her mother-in-law the one who should apologize?
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