These Are The Sad But True Signs He’s Never Going To Marry You
One of the hardest parts about being in a serious long-term relationship with a guy is that period of time when you’re trying to figure out whether or not he would actually take things to the next level and marry you.
There are some guys out there who are not only bad at expressing their feelings but who also tend to give women the impression that they’d like to marry them someday without ever popping the question.
If you’re in a relationship with a guy and struggling to figure out whether or not he’s really in it for the long haul, here are some signs that he’s likely never going to marry you.
He gets uncomfortable when you bring up marriage
When people want to get married one day, the idea of marriage often excites them and makes them happy. If you’ve tried talking to your boyfriend about his views on marriage and he gets uncomfortable, defensive, or even angry, it likely means he has zero interest in getting married or is flat-out against it.
He doesn’t believe in marriage
If your boyfriend has strong views on marriage being unnecessary or toxic or has said it’s “just a piece of paper,” I’m sorry, but you’ll probably never be able to get him to change his mind. People tend to be very black-and-white regarding their views on marriage. At the end of the day, you can’t change someone to change their core beliefs; you just have to find someone who shares the same beliefs as you.
He doesn’t bring you around his friends and family
One of the biggest indicators that a guy is serious about you and wants to keep you around for a long time is when he starts bringing you around his friends and family. If he introduces you to his mom, it likely means he really likes you. If he starts bringing you on family vacations and events, he may see a future with you.
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However, if he actively avoids introducing you to his friends and family, he probably doesn’t see your relationship going very far.
He keeps putting off an ideal proposal time
One of the sneakiest ways guys lead their girlfriends on is by giving them the false idea that they’ll propose “one day” when it’s more “convenient” for them, but never actually do it. If you talk to him about wanting to get engaged and he keeps putting off when he’ll propose, it’s not a good sign. For instance, if he told you he’d propose once he had a more stable job, and he’s had that stable job for over a year, that’s not great.
He makes you feel desperate and needy
Some guys may try and gaslight you into thinking that you’re desperate or pathetic for wanting to get married. Asking a guy to consider marrying you is not pathetic; it’s a sign of love and commitment. If he judges you for that or tries to make you feel guilty for wanting to talk about marriage, you shouldn’t marry him.
He won’t give you a straight answer
The question, “Would you want to get married one day?” requires a simple yes or no answer. If you ask your boyfriend that question and you’re constantly hit with “maybe” or “only if _,” it’s a red flag. Additionally, if your boyfriend instantly comes up with a million excuses why he can’t get married “yet” or always finds a way to change the subject, he’s trying to tell you he doesn’t want to marry you.
Ultimately, you deserve to be with someone who confidently sees themselves having a future with you the more they get to know you. If you take marriage seriously, consider leaving your relationship and finding someone else if these signs pop up. I promise, one day, you will find that person to walk down the aisle for.
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