He Asked His Wife To Stop Inviting Her Mom On Every Outing Because He Wants Some Alone Time With Her, But He Just Got Called Selfish
This 35-year-old man has been married to his wife, who is 32, for three years. But, while he really loves his in-laws, he also believes that they can be “a bit much.”
He particularly feels this way about his mother-in-law, who he admitted is the sweetest woman he’s ever met. Still, his mother-in-law is very opinionated about when she wants things done and how.
His mother-in-law also tragically lost her home in a house fire a couple of months ago, so she has been living with him and his wife ever since.
That’s why he and his wife have both been under more stress lately, and he’s been trying to go out with her more.
“And I feel like she and I haven’t gotten to have much quality ‘alone time’ as of late,” he said.
Every single time that he tries to plan an evening for just himself and his wife, though, his wife always asks if his mother-in-law can tag along– regardless of whether it’s to go to the movies or eat out at a restaurant.
Plus, even if his mother-in-law just joins him and his wife while they do errands, it’s still a major inconvenience.
“Because my wife’s mom has ADD and will often get sidetracked,” he explained.
Nonetheless, he hasn’t given up on trying to take his wife out on a date alone, and just two nights ago, he was able to land them two tickets to see a play.
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Yet, when he told his wife about the outing, all she asked was where her mother’s ticket was!
That immediately made him feel bad, too, but he genuinely just wanted to spend some time with his wife. So, he tried to be honest, and his mother-in-law wound up looking really hurt.
“So I ended up selling the tickets because I didn’t want to make her feel left out,” he recalled.
As time passed by, though, he began to feel more frustrated over the lack of time he gets with just his wife. That’s why he finally confronted her and asked if she could talk to her mom about not tagging along on every single outing they go on.
But, to his surprise, his wife didn’t understand and actually just accused him of being selfish. She also claimed that her mom was never inconveniencing them.
“She’s not, but I want a date with my wife, not my wife and her mother!” he vented.
Still, with his wife now angry at him, he’s been left wondering if asking her to quit inviting her mom everywhere was really so unreasonable or not.
Can you understand why he doesn’t want to constantly spend time with his mother-in-law? Why do you think his wife is okay with her mom always tagging along? How should he handle this situation?
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