He Found Out His Wife Cheated On Him Three Years Ago And Forgave Her, But Now He’s Divorcing Her Anyway Because His Sister’s Recent Divorce Reminded Him Of The Betrayal
This 29-year-old man and his wife, who is also 29, have a 3-year-old son. Three years ago, his wife had an affair with her best friend from high school. She told him about the affair and felt incredibly guilty and sorry for her actions.
Afterward, she blocked the man she cheated with, as well as all of her high school friends. His wife allowed him to look through her phone and social media.
He chose to continue with their marriage for their son, and the only person he told about his wife’s affair was his sister (who was then 28).
Even though his sister was furious about what his wife did, she respected his choice not to file for divorce.
“To my wife’s credit, she has shown nothing but love these past three years. She hasn’t gone on a single girls’ trip, or any trip, without me. She has been a fantastic mother to our boy,” he said.
Last month, his wife planned a wonderful, romantic birthday celebration for him. Over the years, he thought he’d healed and forgiven his wife for her affair.
A couple of weeks ago, his sister called him with the news that her husband had an affair, so they were divorcing. Understandably, his sister was devastated.
“I don’t know what happened, but that triggered something in me psychologically where I was reminded of my wife cheating on me three years ago,” he explained.
Even though he acknowledged that he’d forgiven her after she cheated, he accepted that he couldn’t stay married to her anymore.
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Not long after his sister told him about her upcoming divorce, he informed his wife that he would be divorcing her, and a conversation about it wouldn’t change his mind.
“I think, weirdly enough, the fact that I was serving my wife with divorce papers helped my sister better cope with her divorce. We both lamented at our terrible luck and just laughed about it,” he shared.
He and his sister weren’t as crushed about their marriages ending as they’d been before because they both realized it was for the best and meant they could hang out together more often.
After he and his sister divorce their spouses, he doesn’t imagine either of them will date for quite a while.
At the same time, he feels guilty and mean for what he’s putting his wife through because she was heartbroken that he wanted to file for divorce.
Despite her affair, he doesn’t think she deserves the pain she’s enduring over their marriage ending, but he knows that he can’t stay married to her.
What advice would you give him?
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