Her Best Friend Suddenly Can’t Attend Her Destination Wedding And Claimed It Wasn’t Affordable, But Her Friend Is Still Going On An Extended Trip To South Africa, So She Wants To Cut Off Their Relationship
This woman’s wedding is in May. She currently lives in Ireland, but she’s originally from Canada. Her best friend, whom she met at the company they both were working for, coincidentally was also from Canada. They met a little while after her best friend moved to Ireland.
Over the past six years, they’ve had a close bond and spent all of their time together. When she first met her now-fiancé, her friend was so thrilled for her, and she could not be happier for her when her fiancé proposed.
Since she and her fiancé live far away from her family, their wedding will occur in her Canadian hometown. Because they’d be having a destination wedding, she and her fiancé accepted that some of the guests they invited might be unable to make the trip.
With more than a year and a half to go until they got married, she asked her best friend if she would be her maid of honor and travel to Canada for the wedding, and her friend happily accepted the role.
In early January, her friend told her she could no longer attend the wedding. She said that her sister’s 35th birthday is in June, and she was hoping to bring her boyfriend (whom she’d been dating for two months) for a visit so that they could celebrate her sister’s birthday and she could introduce her boyfriend to her family.
Her friend explained that she didn’t have the money to spend on two back-to-back vacations in one year. In addition, her friend said that she didn’t have enough vacation time for both a two-week visit for her sister’s birthday and several days for the wedding.
Understandably, she was devastated by this, but she did her best to accept the news with the hope that her hurt feelings would only be temporary.
“Fast forward a month (two days ago), and she tells me that she’s getting to Canada literally 9 days after my wedding takes place and is so excited for summer. Her sister wants to extend her birthday celebrations, and they are going on a trip to South Africa for all of August,” she said.
Between these two vacations, her friend would come back to Ireland for a bit. When her friend told her about her summer travel plans, she was upset, acknowledging that her friend would be coming to Canada less than two weeks after her wedding.
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Plus, the reason her friend provided for not attending the wedding was that she didn’t have the money for two vacations this year. Yet now it’s suddenly financially feasible for her to come back to Ireland in between two vacations. She isn’t sure if her sister was paying for her to go visit, but she didn’t think it was likely.
Her friend’s sister is married and has three children. She didn’t think her friend’s sister’s husband would have been willing to fund her sister’s trip to visit them. However, if her sister paid for the trip, she thought her friend should have let her know because she’d previously claimed that she couldn’t afford two trips this year.
She also thought it was strange that her friend had told her she didn’t have enough vacation time, and now she’s taking a two-week trip to see her sister and is spending an entire month in South Africa but supposedly didn’t have several days to spare for her wedding.
“The rest of my bridesmaids were so mad that they removed her from our WhatsApp, saying she doesn’t get to see the plans anymore as she’s lost the privilege,” she explained.
Her family members, who’ve met her friend on several occasions, were enraged with her friend’s behavior and told her they didn’t want her friend around them ever again.
Also, her fiancé was so angry that he proclaimed her friend was no longer allowed to set foot in their house, adding that he never wanted to see her friend or even hear anyone utter her name ever again. Then, he removed a photo of her and her friend that was hung up on the wall.
“Everyone is saying she’s lied and treated me like dirt. I’ve bought her a dress, ordered flowers, and a personalized present. The fact that she said she had booked a room at the venue a year ago, and when we asked the owner, she hadn’t, and said she never intended to go,” she shared.
All of her family and close friends have advised her to end the friendship, but she isn’t sure if it would be overdramatic of her to do so. She doesn’t want her friend to think she’s “being a bridezilla.” She wonders if she should be more supportive of her friend for prioritizing time with her sister.
What advice would you give her?
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