She Wouldn’t Help Her Ex-Husband Raise His Kids After His New Wife Suddenly Died Because He Cheated On Her And Married His Affair Partner
This 44-year-old woman has twin 10-year-old sons with her ex-husband. Sadly, her ex had an affair, and after she divorced him, he and the woman he had an affair with had two children together (a daughter, now 5, and a son, now 6). Her ex-husband eventually married the woman he cheated with.
Even though this was understandably painful for her, she and her ex-husband agreed to be cordial with each other so that they could effectively co-parent their sons.
While she legally has sole custody, she and her ex came up with their own custody arrangement outside of the courts. She has custody of their sons during the week, and her ex-husband has custody on the weekends. This arrangement went pretty smoothly.
Whenever her ex-husband came over to pick up the twins, he sometimes brought his other kids along, who seemed great. His wife barely talked to her, but she was cordial and kind to the twins, which was fine with her. Last year, her ex-husband’s wife tragically passed away, and he was overwhelmed with grief.
“My sons were worried about their siblings. So, I spoke to my ex, and he said they were fine. My sons asked if they could have their siblings stay over, and after asking my ex, he was okay with it,” she said.
After this, her sons’ half-siblings constantly came to her house. Luckily, it seemed like it was helpful for her ex-husband to have time to work on his mental health and healing.
Once it seemed like her ex was coping with his grief in better ways, she asked him to take care of his kids more often since she realized that his kids seemed emotionally attached to her. He agreed.
However, her ex-husband’s kids have since been asking him if they can go back to her house to see their half-siblings.
Her ex asked her if she’d be willing to get together with him and his kids so that all the children could hang out. She said yes to this idea initially, but upon reflection, she doesn’t think it’s a good idea.
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Recently, she was offered a new job, and it would pay more than her current job. She accepted the position, and so she has to relocate to the opposite end of the country. When she broke the news to her sons, they expressed how much they’d miss their half-siblings and their father, but they also were thrilled about moving to a new place and experiencing some changes.
Later, her sons informed her ex-husband about the upcoming move, and he was furious. He called her and told her she couldn’t move away with their sons. In response, she told him that she and their sons would come back when they got together with her parents so he could see them during these visits.
Her words didn’t make her ex feel any better, and he told her that his children would be crushed that their half-siblings were moving. She apologized and said that he needed to accept the reality of the situation.
“He called me cruel and heartless and then hung up on me. That same day, his parents called me and said I was selfish to take away the boys and that my ex’s other kids need a mother figure in their lives,” she explained.
She pointed out that she wasn’t her ex’s children’s mom, but his parents claimed that they’ve been paying attention to how she acts around his kids and that she acts like a mom to them.
After that, his parents told her they were more than willing to fight in court for more custody for her ex-husband.
“Legally, I can move without his permission,” she shared.
Once her ex’s parents got off the phone with her, they continued texting and calling her to tell her that she was self-centered and mean, pressuring her not to move and to continue taking care of her ex’s children.
What advice would you give her?
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