Her Husband Nearly Died At Work And They’ve Been Struggling To Financially Recover Ever Since, Yet She Never Told Him About Her $47,000 “Escape Fund”
This 34-year-old woman and her husband, 37, have been married for seven years and together for eight years.
After the wedding, her mom had a private chat with her, advising that she keep an emergency fund secret from her husband, just in case their marriage got so bad that she needed to leave him immediately.
Even though her husband has never given off any red flags indicating that he has issues with anger, her mother gave the impression that she should do so no matter how wonderful her husband was.
She and her husband are child-free, and when they first started dating, they both were on the same page about her being a stay-at-home wife when they got married.
Her husband earns six figures, so they were financially comfortable living on his income. Everything was fine until two years ago.
“He was injured at work in a near-fatal accident. Between hospital bills and a lawsuit that we lost, that ate up nearly all of our savings,” she said.
As her husband healed from his injuries, she began working part-time. Once he was completely healed, she quit her job because he assured her that it was his duty to financially support them.
Now, he’s working two jobs full-time and as an Uber driver on his days off so that they can build their savings back up.
“I do all of the expense managing and have continued to put money into my ‘escape account,’ although I significantly decreased from $750 a month to just $200 a month. My husband came home exhausted one night and asked about downsizing because the stress of work was going to kill him,” she explained.
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In response, she argued that they couldn’t downsize because she’d put so much time and effort into creating a home out of the beautiful house they’d purchased.
Instead of downsizing, she suggested that she start working again. While her husband was kind, he explained that she wouldn’t bring in enough money if she got a job again.
Later, her husband started looking through their finances to try to figure out other ways they could save money.
“He was confused when he saw that I had regular reoccurring withdrawals leading back years and asked me about it,” she shared.
“I broke down and revealed my money to him, which now sits at about $47,000. After I told him all this, he just broke down sobbing. His point of view is that I treated him like a predator.”
Her husband was devastated that she had been saving up all of this money behind his back throughout their entire marriage and that she had continued to put money into this “escape fund” even when he was going through the most difficult times in his life.
She expressed that this fund was started just in case of emergency, adding that she would have done this regardless of who she married.
Eventually, her husband went to spend time with his brother, and he told her that she had crushed him in every way imaginable.
When she told her mother what happened, she said that this situation was what the emergency fund was for in the first place and that she should take this opportunity to leave him.
Do you think she was wrong?
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