He’s Furious That His Girlfriend Said He Was Excluded From Her Sister’s Wedding Because He’d Get Judged By The Rest Of The Guests For Not Being As Educated
This 24-year-old man and his girlfriend, who is also 24, met through mutual friends and have been in a relationship for the last three years. His girlfriend has a close bond with her family, so she has invited him to dinner with her family a lot. Her family is incredibly wealthy and pompous, and he thinks they’re similar to rich movie characters.
His girlfriend’s father is the CEO of a multinational company, her mother is a doctor, and her 26-year-old sister has a job in finance. Her sister is well-educated and got her Master’s from Harvard. Plus, her sister met her now-fiancé while attending Harvard, and he’s a lawyer. His girlfriend is currently working on her PhD.
On the other hand, he’s a normal guy with a normal job at a relatively small company, and he wouldn’t describe himself as the most intelligent man out there. His family is also fairly ordinary, but his girlfriend adores them because they’re ten times more content and kind than her family.
Whenever he goes to dinner with his girlfriend, the get-togethers are relaxed, but the discussions revolve around current events. While they don’t talk about more publicized situations like the situation in Palestine, they talk about topics that he’s not well-versed in.
“The conversation centers around the impending financial slowdown and regression in China, farmers protests somewhere I don’t even know, and how the stock markets are performing,” he said.
Her family also discusses politics and political policy in-depth and what these policies mean for the country rather than discussing upcoming elections. During every dinner, he feels like he’s watching the news.
Unfortunately, since he’s not current on these topics, he can’t chime in during these discussions, so he normally sits quietly. When someone asks him for his viewpoint, it’s uncomfortable because he doesn’t know enough to weigh in.
However, they’ve never condescended him, been angry with him, or made him feel like he’s not welcome. He hasn’t had an awful time during these dinners by any means. His girlfriend is always attentive and checking in to ask if he’s having him or if he wants to head out.
The most welcoming of his girlfriend’s family members has been her sister, who constantly told him that once he started dating his girlfriend, he was essentially part of their family already. Her fiancé doesn’t like him, though, and usually gives him the cold shoulder.
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Her sister’s wedding is in two weeks, and he thought he’d be invited since he sees his girlfriend’s sister two or three times a month for get-togethers.
Plus, he gets along well with her. But his girlfriend’s sister recently asked him during a family gathering if he would be okay not attending the wedding.
“I was pretty confused as to why she didn’t want me there, to which she said that it’s a small wedding, and the people there might be really judgmental of me,” he explained.
He interpreted this to mean that wedding guests would think less of him because he doesn’t have a Master’s degree or know about current events in China.
When he turned to see his girlfriend’s reaction, he was stunned to see that she was in agreement with her sister.
His girlfriend added that he would feel awkward at the wedding, especially because he wouldn’t know any of the guests, and she couldn’t hang out with him for the entire wedding. Because of this, his girlfriend thought it made sense for him not to attend.
“I got mad at her because I expected her to take my side. She said it’s not her fault and that it’s her sister’s and brother-in-law’s call,” he shared.
According to his girlfriend, he shouldn’t be angry with her since it wasn’t her decision about whether he attended her sister’s wedding. Their conversation escalated into a fight, and his girlfriend told him she understood why her sister didn’t invite him.
Her words deeply upset him, so he walked out of the place they shared and had been staying with his parents. Later, his girlfriend called him and said he was being a jerk.
What would you do if you were in his shoes?
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