His Ex-Wife Divorced Him And Got Pregnant By Another Guy, But Now She Wants His Name On The Birth Certificate And He’s Refusing To Accept The Baby As His Own
This 39-year-old man and his now ex-wife, Kelly, 36, share three children together and are from Toronto. Their kids are 14, 12, and 6. Kelly got pregnant not long after they started dating, and their firstborn was 1 when he and Kelly married.
Later on in their marriage, Kelly decided to be a stay-at-home mother. Eventually, she met a physical trainer named Josh.
“Kelly told me she was no longer attracted to me and wanted a divorce. I suggested therapy,” he said.
Unfortunately, Kelly refused to go to couples counseling. In her view, since she wasn’t physically attracted to him anymore, therapy would be a waste of time. She didn’t think therapy could help her gain the attraction for him back.
After they divorced, they had a 50/50 custody agreement. Because Kelly still doesn’t work, he has to pay her child support alimony.
“She got pregnant by Josh after a hookup. Josh disappeared when she told him about the pregnancy,” he explained.
Kelly’s due date is quickly approaching, and she recently told him that she wanted her baby to have his last name so that all of her children had the same last name. He responded that her idea was strange, especially considering he was not the father of her baby and wouldn’t be listed on the birth certificate.
“She said, ‘That’s what I’m saying! You have always been a great dad, and it’s cruel that the baby would be left out while the siblings have you,'” he shared.
He rejected her idea to list him on the baby’s birth certificate, and he was almost certain she couldn’t legally do so without his permission. All he cares about is the well-being of his children. When he refused to allow Kelly to list him on the birth certificate, she called him mean and said he didn’t have a heart, pointing out that the child would be their other children’s half-sibling.
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During the conversation, he got the impression that Kelly was planning to tell her child that he was the father and pretend that Josh didn’t even exist.
To clarify, he pointed out that he’s black, while both Josh and Kelly are white with blonde hair and blue eyes.
Even though he’s never met Josh in person, he knows that Josh and Kelly’s child will look vastly different than the three children he and Kelly share and won’t look at all like him.
He doesn’t think it would be fair for Kelly to pretend he was her baby’s father, and he hadn’t intended to be mean or vindictive by refusing to be listed on the birth certificate.
After he and Kelly divorced, he was understandably shattered and depressed. He went to therapy and eventually moved forward with his life, choosing to prioritize both his and his children’s mental health.
He’s decided not to date yet because he doesn’t feel like he or his children are ready to welcome a new person into their family.
What advice would you give him?
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