She Found Out Her Husband Had Been Having An Affair With His Female Coworker, So She Teamed Up With His Coworker’s Husband To Gather Evidence And Wound Up Cheating, Too
This 32-year-old woman and her husband, Bautista, 35, have been married for five years. They have a 4-year-old daughter named Luz. She and Bautista were in a relationship for two years before marriage. For a while, their relationship was wonderful.
A while ago, a man named Marcos, 32, got in touch with her to see if she was available to meet up. Marcos told her he had some urgent news for her. Before this meetup, she hadn’t met or known of Marcos before. However, when she got together with him, he was visibly distraught.
“He told me my husband and his wife, Kiara, 34, had been having an affair for about two months. He showed me the screenshots of texts they had been sending,” she said.
She was understandably shattered and in complete disbelief. Sadly, one of her good friends had died only about two months before learning about Bautista’s affair, so she was already going through a tough time. After learning that he was cheating, she was in an even darker place. Bautista and Kiara worked together at their law firm for around a year.
Initially, she sobbed and processed her emotions before accepting the truth. Throughout the next several days, Marcos reached out to her to see how she was doing, which she was grateful for. Eventually, she reached out to him for assistance. Since both of their spouses had an affair with each other and were both lawyers, Bautista and Kiara could be sneaky and manipulate the facts.
Even though she and Marcos were crushed about their spouses’ betrayal, they were also concerned about their children (Marcos and Kiara had a child together, too). So, she and Marcos plotted to catch Bautista and Kiara actively engaging in their affair so that they had undeniable proof.
Over time, she and Marcos had constant conversations and began hanging out often to socialize. They then built a strong friendship, but she later noticed that she had a crush on Marcos.
“I was falling out of love with my husband each day. Marcos confessed he had been falling for me. I told him I was, too, and we kissed. It was amazing, but I couldn’t help but feel guilty,” she explained.
She and Marcos decided that they wouldn’t do anything physical again until they separated from their spouses. They both knew it wasn’t a good idea to begin a relationship with an affair. So, they found the proof they’d been hoping for, and each found great divorce lawyers.
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She and Marcos each chose to file for divorce without informing Bautista or Kiara in advance. They did this because they didn’t want to give their spouses the chance to come up with plans before they filed for divorce.
While neither she nor Marcos have filed their divorce papers yet, they plan to shortly. This weekend, Bautista left to visit his parents in the city where he spent his childhood, and he brought their daughter along.
Last night, while Bautista and their daughter were still away on their trip, she invited Marcos to her house for dinner.
In hindsight, this was a stupid mistake on her part, but they hadn’t had a chance to talk lately because they’d both been preoccupied with getting all their ducks in a row before filing for divorce from their spouses.
She and Marcos had a blast together and were drinking a lot of alcohol, so they weren’t in a place to make good judgment. As they talked, they both felt like it was outrageous and a waste of energy to remain faithful to their partners when their partners hadn’t remained faithful to them.
That night, they slept together, and she admitted that it was wonderful. Immediately afterward, she didn’t have any guilt or feel like what they were doing was unethical, but she felt bad the next morning.
On the one hand, she was thrilled to spend time with Marcos and had romantic feelings for him. But on the other hand, she’d always felt sick at the thought of having an affair.
“It’s kind of weird. I don’t know how to feel. A part of me feels like this was a bad choice because we’re acting like them, and that’s not good at all. Two wrongs don’t make a right. But at the same time, when you make the choice to cheat on someone, you’re breaking someone’s trust and betraying them in the worst way possible. And when you do that, the relationship is broken,” she shared.
In her view, once someone has an affair, even after they’re forgiven, the couple can never return to the way their relationship was before the affair. She knew she could never forgive Bautista for cheating on her, and she’d already told him this at the beginning of their relationship, informing him that she would break up with him immediately if he was ever unfaithful.
Upon reflection, her marriage to Bautista was essentially already over once he had an affair with Kiara, even though she hadn’t yet filed the divorce papers.
She clarified that she hadn’t hooked up with Marcos to get revenge on Bautista or to upset him; she’d hooked up with him because she felt like it. In her opinion, it no longer made sense to continue remaining faithful to Bautista when he hadn’t done the same.
Since she and Bautista share a daughter, she needed to take more time to plan out the terms of their divorce.
The situation would be more complicated than if they didn’t have any children. If that had been the case, she would have broken up with him and moved out immediately without a second thought.
She’s worried that Bautista would retaliate against her during the divorce by making things up about her so that he gains custody of their daughter.
Luckily, she earns a decent living, but she doesn’t make as much money as Bautista. Because he has so many personal contacts as a lawyer, he knows how to strategize and fight against her in court during a tense divorce.
Now, she isn’t sure if she’s just rationalizing her behavior away in her head so that she doesn’t feel bad about what she’s done or if what she did wasn’t really that unethical.
Do you think she was wrong for cheating on Bautista after he cheated on her?
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