She Shared Videos On Social Media Talking About Feeling Excluded And Sad When Her Friends Didn’t Invite Her To A Party, And They’re Mad She Won’t Take The Videos Down
For us members of Gen Z and Millennials, something our parents never had to deal with when it came to friend drama was “shady” or angry posts on social media. Have you ever had a ‘friend’ call you out on social media or make an anonymous post about you when they were upset?
One woman decided to post a TikTok about how hurt she was after her friends didn’t invite her to a Super Bowl party they were going to. Now, they’re mad at her because she won’t take it down.
She’s 26-years-old and has been close to the same three friends, Emma, Bee, and Brent, for years. The four of them are around the same age and have been hanging out in a group for the last five or so years. Often, they’ll also hang out with people whom Emma’s introduced them to.
However, over the last few months, she’s felt a shift in the dynamic of her friend group. She started receiving fewer invitations from her friends and noticed they were getting together more without her. One night, she broke down in tears in front of them and told them she felt like an excluded outcast.
Her friends told her they’d be better about including her in their plans, but she felt nothing had changed.
A few days before the Super Bowl, Bee mentioned she’d be watching the game at a mutual friend’s house and that it would be a small, low-key gathering.
“I told her to enjoy herself [and that] I would find other plans,” she recalled.
“I asked Emma what she was doing [and] she said she also had plans. On a hunch, I asked her if it was at the same mutual acquaintance’s house, and she told me yes. I was pretty upset and decided to ask her why I hadn’t been included. She said that Bee and Brent had been invited, while she and two others had invited themselves, and that I wasn’t left out intentionally.”
She decided not to push to get herself invited but was disappointed when neither Bee nor Brent asked her if she’d like to go to the gathering.
Dasha Petrenko – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual people
The night of the gathering, she decided to stay home and make TikTok videos about how she was feeling excluded and sad.
“I occasionally make content on TikTok and decided the video might be relatable, so I decided to post just the small clip,” she said.
“I didn’t mention any names, but the caption said, ‘POV: all your friends go to a Super Bowl party without you.’ Was it dumb of me to include that bit? Perhaps. But, I knew it would get more views if it mentioned the Super Bowl.”
Later, her boyfriend got a text from Brent, who asked if he could talk to him about her TikTok video. Her boyfriend was perplexed as to why Brent wanted to speak to him and told him that since her feelings were hurt, he needed to talk to her directly.
“Brent insisted on speaking to my partner instead and informed him I needed to either remove the video or turn off the comments,” she explained.
“I was surprised to be receiving this reaction from them, considering the video was fairly generic. I started a group chat with the three of them, asking when we could get together to talk about why they were so angry.”
Her friends decided to keep communicating strictly via texts and told her how upset they were over her video. She kept trying to arrange a time to meet in person to talk things out, but her friends wouldn’t budge, telling her she needed to take down the video before they saw each other.
She flipped the scenario, telling her friends she wouldn’t take her video down unless they met with her in person to discuss things.
Finally, Emma, Bee, and Brent told her they didn’t want to be her friend anymore via text and have since cut her off.
Did she do anything wrong by posting a TikTok video?
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